by ScienceNerd

Gender: Female

Age: 34
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Researcher
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

So, I Snore Really Loudly…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night-stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was the first evening party in my local cafe, where I spend a lot of time. It has a really nice group of regulars and the man I hooked up with is one of them. He’s a bit taller than me, Asian, good-looking and a very chill person. I’d known him for a bit and we’d talked but not really flirted much. That day, I’d had a moan-fest with some equally single, female friends about our boring sex lives, so the idea of sex was floating around.
The party was fun, I was drunk and this guy and I had a really nice chat.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were chatting and I kissed him. We made out a bit (still in the cafe) and I asked him whether he’d like to have sex. He was a bit startled by my directness, but really up for it, so we went to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out a bit more and started having sex (with a condom, of course). He kept calling me cutsey nicknames, but I told him to stop that, so he did. We had vaginal intercourse, missionary style and me riding him. We had to pause a few times so he didn’t come to fast. I get a bit bitey when I’m turned on, which didn’t bother him. His penis was rather small, which I found a little disappointing, but the sex was good, even if I didn’t come.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom, but didn’t discuss STIs.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was just horny and he was there, I guess. Also, I knew him a bit, so I was reasonably sure he was a good guy and not an axe murderer.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was tipsy-verging-on-drunk, he was sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had sex, we cuddled a bit and talked. I fell asleep. When I woke up the next morning, he was gone. I wasn’t boterhed, as it was just a hookup. When I went back to the cafe, half the street already knew we’d kissed (news travels fast around here).

I didn’t see him for a week or so, and when I did we had a chat. I told him I’d had a good time, but that I wasn’t interested in more. He said he’d figured that out and apologized for leaving without saying goodbye. Apparently, I snored so loudly that he couldn’t sleep, so he left a little after I fell asleep.
We see each other sometimes and nothing much has changed,

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some women friends of mine, who were happy for me for getting some and amused by the snoring part. I also told an ex-flatmate, who had been subjected to my nightly noises and he laughed his ass off.
Next time I hook up I’ll definitely offer them earplugs!

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all! I enjoyed it, he enjoyed it, the gossips had something to talk about – what’s to regret?

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was good to have sex again after a long dry spell, and also to remind myself that casual hookups can be fun.
It was a pity I was so tipsy, as that reduces my sexual response a bit. It’s also a pity I didn’t get to sleep-cuddle more due to my snoring.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? To do: Buy earplugs.

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