by SoberChick

Gender: Female
Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Iowa
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Queer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 57
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0




How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago

How would you best classify this hookup? booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have known my hook up for 3 years, meeting in a weekly support group for recovering addicts/alcoholics. I know him quite well, I consider him an acquaintance. He is tall, muscular, in is mid-40’s. I was nervous about the hook up but felt safe and confident.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I asked to come over to his place. We both knew it was to hook up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He performed oral on me twice. I performed oral on him once. We did missionary with my legs in the air and doggy style.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both did, yes.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did not discuss history. We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I needed to have sex. It had been 2 years since my last hook up, friends with benefits set up.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Both sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I laid on his arm and chest and chatted for about 15 minutes then, I went home. I felt good about it! I would like to see this hook up, friends with benefits arrangement, continue.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my gay male best friend before and after. He knew where I was and what I was doing. He celebrated for me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I believe we both just wanted to have sex, our needs were met.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I would like to add this into my self-confidence, personal empowerment and to know that I am in charge of my own body and sex life!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I came. He was great at foreplay and oral sex! Worst: penis size.

I am more self-confident!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I feel as though, the longer the hook up culture continues, the more WOMEN have a say in a heterosexual hook up and the more we all practice safe sex, the hook up culture CAN be a very positive, healthy, and empowering thing. We also need to talk more about the hook up culture and sexuality, in general.

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