Some Years Later

 

by Janelle

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Kansas City
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Pig farmer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Some Years Later

How long ago did this hookup happen? Currently

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall, dark, and handsome in tight jeans. I met him while at work. Before the first time, he was just good eye candy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The first time was on a gravel road. A lot of planning and texting was involved. There was much flirting at work.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I performed oral on him. He liked to be rough, and kept choking me. He then bent me over his truck. It was big. Filled me up good. At the end, he came on my back. Then proceeded to take me to my car.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? 6 years later, we still have casual sex. His wife has no idea we talk almost daily. He’s turned into my best friend. But there are boundaries.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Power / Dominance, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. Huge secret

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That it’s last 6 years

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He’s married

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have good sex. Period. I give him what his wife doesn’t.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I encourage casual encounters. Sometimes serious relationships just don’t work for people

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!