by D
Gender: Male

Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: OH
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
Occupation: IT
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Exploring/Inexperienced
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Soo…You Wanna Make Out?

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was about 27, I was 21. I recently moved to Ohio, and just started working at an IT department he worked at. He was a similar build, of medium height, not too built, flat stomach. Pretty cute, and I hadn’t really been attracted to guys before then. I’d had girlfriends with whom I’d had sex since high school, however. I definitely liked the idea of being with a guy, but no real-world guys really did it for me. Course, at first I hadn’t been attracted to him and just thought of him as a coworker and maybe a little awkward. But he dressed nice, spoke well and generally conducted himself like a decent guy, so I guess I liked the cut of his jib.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning to it, really. We had talked a little bit about cartoons and weed at work, so he invited me over to his apartment to watch some cartoons and smoke some weed. So we do that, and get through 2-3 episodes of Archer and then talk a little bit after; about the job and then life, and then girls, or guys in his case. I mentioned I was in an open relationship but very bicurious, and he became interested and began to ask more, and wished me luck in satisfying that curiosity. We talked a bit more, and were going to watch more TV, but I stopped him and asked if he wanted to make out. He did.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were sitting side-by-side on the couch, and I turned and straddled him, and kissed him on the mouth. I had never done this before with a guy, and my heart was racing. I didn’t think I’d be able to do it, so I dived in. It felt good, and he was into it. I put my hands on him, and moved one down his chest to his cock, and felt it get hard through his pants.

I tried to unbutton his jeans, but couldn’t do it while kissing him, so he nudged me off, stands up, and unbuttoned. I take his pants off and his cock out of his boxers. I hadn’t felt one that wasn’t my own before. He was very hard. I tried to give him a blowjob but it was hard to get my mouth around his cock, and I couldn’t take much of it in, but I sucked it for a few minutes and felt him. It felt like he was going to cum soon, so I stopped, and led him to his bedroom, and took my shirt off. He began to strip too.

We both got naked, and began to make out on the bed some more. When he was getting into it, I left the bed to go get some lube. When I came back, he had gotten a condom out, and I played with his cock while I lubed my ass up with my fingers. When I got 2 fingers in and it was slick and wet, I put the condom on him,  and he mounted me from behind and entered me in one stroke. I had been using a dildo regularly before this, but it was still a shock. I pressed my hips up against him, and he began to fuck me. After a while, we switched to missionary, and then back to doggy style. He grabbed my hips and kissed up my back, and then pulled me close and came very hard.

After that, he tried to finish me off by blowing me, but I didn’t want to come right then, so I pulled him away and kissed him. We dressed after, and I went back to my apartment, showered, told my girlfriend about it, and we had sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? There was no possibility of pregnancy here. He told me he was clean, but still a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I really wanted to hook up with a guy, and it was a great opportunity.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We smoked a little bit of weed. No alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hung out and had sex a few more times. I began to feel embarrassed and ashamed about it however, and began to feel that perhaps this was hurting my relationship with my girlfriend. Perhaps I was afraid of my own feelings. He texted me daily, and had little to say. He was awkward, and I suspected he liked me, but I played it cool and did not text him too frequently or hang out too often.

I soon stopped seeing him entirely, and told myself I was going to focus on my relationship with my girlfriend, but that began to deteriorate soon after. During the next year and a half, I was always in a breaking up/making up stages with her, and never got a chance to hang out with my male lover. Now that I’m single, I have tried to arrange another meeting with him, but this has yet to work out. It’s too bad, really- I want to make love to him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my girlfriend, who was very excited and supportive. I did not tell anyone else, because I did not think that anyone would understand.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Oh yes, on all counts.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. It was a loss of a kind of virginity I believe, and I wouldn’t have experienced it in any other way.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was experiencing sex with another man, and understanding that it isn’t really so much different from any other kind of sex. I enjoy it all; it’s all beautiful. The worst aspect was that I held back; I did not let him give me an orgasm, and I think I shut myself off from feeling the full romantic and emotional intimacy of the experience. I was (and am) a little closeted so I hadn’t come to full terms with this aspect of my identity. I’ve reflected on this a lot since then and I’m much more ready to allow myself to feel these things.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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