by Becky

Gender: Female
Age: 18
Race/ethnicity: White British
Current location: West Yorkshire
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

“Sorry I’m Late For Class…”

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on a dating site, both looking for a fun fling.  He was pretty hot, good body and nice smile.  I was pretty nervous about meeting him, as our hookup was the first time we’d met face to face!

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started sexting and sending dirty snapchats telling each other what we’d do to them.  He told me he had a free house one morning, and although I was nervous, I said I’d go!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was pretty awkward when I first arrived in the taxi.  He took me upstairs and we started kissing.  I got onto his lap and pulled my dress over my head, and began to undress him.  I gave him oral sex first, then he returned the favour after which I whispered in his ear that I was a virgin and told him to put it in.  It hurt at first and bled quite a lot but after a while I just enjoyed it.  We alternated between boy and girl on top, but never strayed into particularly interesting positions.  Overall it was pretty awkward and I left saying I was going to be late for college.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? He had an orgasm but I faked it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom the first time, but the second time it broke trying to put it on so we did without. I was also on the contraceptive pill.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I think we both just wanted a bit of fun to be honest.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I ended up being very late for college!  Using the excuse that my “bus was late” (which was partially true, I just left out the part about having sex!)  I didn’t really think about him much after that, until recently when I thought it would be nice to bump into him on a night out and see where things led, but he has a girlfriend now anyway.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends who were pretty shocked, but also amused when they realised that was why I was so late for class.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for both of us.  Non-consensual sex isn’t sex, it’s rape!

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I’ll probably regret it in a few years time, wishing my first time had been better, but for now I don’t really think about it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the buzz of feeling so naughty, sneaking off before college for casual sex.  It also boosted my confidence with guys a little.  However it was SO awkward and unsatisfying for me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!