What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Automotive
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? A lot
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 6’4″ish African American man, very handsome, and slim. We chatted for a couple of weeks on a dating site, we swapped #s. Probably 2 more weeks before we finally had a chance to meet. I was nervous about meeting him, but excited.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met a bar I go to frequently, had some drinks, he hit it off with several of my friends. We smoked some weed, which I haven’t done in years. But I was lit and completely relaxed. I instigated the meeting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We came back to my place, smoked a little more. Making out groping and on me, finally to my room. I wanted him bad, I was going to taste him. But before I got my chance, he had me out of my clothes pushed me on the bed. Kissing me gave me a few strokes, before he pulled out and started licking me and fingering me, I exploded, squirted everywhere. 1St time ever. He said oh I thought you couldn’t squirt. Grinning at me, we repeated this over and over for hours. My bed was soaked. Best sex I’ve ever had. He had to leave early the next morning but not before ensuring my bed was once again soaked and telling me he’d see me again soon.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great after, very satisfied more so than ever. No expectations just had hopped off him wanting more. And he has on a regular basis that night.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend who is my ex-lover, he was happy for and surprised that I squirted
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We both enjoyed each other and came a lot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He had to leave too early
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I guess it has left me wanting more.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Still in shock how much he makes me squirt. I was with another partner after who didn’t have a problem making me squirt either.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think causal sex should be accepted and appreciated.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? 1St time I’ve come across it, enjoyed what I read. I’ll be back.
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