What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Social Services
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

SSBBW Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met my partner on a dating site that was geared toward partners looking for supersize lovers. I’m African American approx 350 lbs. My partner was Caucasian, long dirty blonde hair and had an awesomely cut body. We texted/talked for 3 months before building up the nerve to try a rendezvous. Before the hookup we got along awesomely. Total opposites. Successful black woman and a country redneck laborer.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup was planned and happened in a pay by hour motel. He basically challenged my sincerity about meeting up one day and I finally caved in. A lot of intimate conversations had him EXTREMELY interested. He texted me all day everyday saying I was consuming his thoughts

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to the room and I began adjusting the air. He came up behind me and began touching me. I am extremely shapely, with 50 DD boobs and a nice butt. He began kissing me and lowered my dress and took off my bra. His body was quivering, his huge dick was so hard. He led me to the bed, sat while I stood before him, engaging in serious heavy petting. I pushed down his pants and sucked his dick. He began shaking and jumped back a little telling me he was about to cum. I rolled on a condom, laid on my back, and he came before he could fully penetrate me. After apologizing he asked for another round, rock hard again, his body quaking we engaged in more EXTREMELY heavy petting. I put the condom on. Got on my knees, he entered me and immediately came. We laid next to each other, silent this time. He was watching me. I asked him why.He gave me some offhand comment and then asked for round three. I refused. We agreed to part ways and chat later.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up I was cool. I was a little disappointed that such a well endowed attractive men couldn’t get past penetration. We talked on the phone several times during the week but he was distant. We finally had the big talk and he admitted that he had never came that fast in his life ever, and that he was a bit embarrassed. He also said that was the most exciting time that he had ever had which led to him being over excited. It was new and he had no idea that it would be so sexy.  We were cool after that. He tried to resume a sexual relationship but I kind of put him off.  A few months past and he tried again. I let him know then that I was seriously dating someone. He was a nice guy, just not able to perform like he said. It was awesome foreplay, though.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Afterwards I shared the story with my best friend and my sister. We all had a good laugh but expressed disappointment in my partner. He had told so many stories of his sexual proweress.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I regretted the hook up only because I didn’t get what I was looking for which was aggressive penetration.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing about this hook up with his hands all over my body. He was an awesome kisser like one of the best that I’ve ever had. And the experience of having sex with another race.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The worst thing about the hook up with the fact that he did not perform as he said he would. He had painted a picture of banging sex. I didn’t get that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Overall it was a decent experience it has not changed my mind at all about anything. I was never a casual hookup sex person. but after a divorce I was trying something new. I’m over it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? You can’t judge a book by its cover. he was extremely fit awesome body. Me I was overweight and also extremely sensual sexually confident and very confident in myself. Here is a tip being comfortable in your skin is a turn on

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I just think if people indulge in casual sex they should protect themselves. I’m not a big fan, every now and then its okay but then its not my lifestyle.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This was awesome I loved telling my story.

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