What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Orlando, Florida
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Stephies First Big One
How long ago did this hookup happen? Year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Prior to this meeting, they were white, including my ex-husband and two others. Had not hooked up before.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Met him on an internet interracial dating site. I was curious about dating and sex with a black man, like many other white women. Yes, there was planning involved, I am a very careful person. I instigated the meeting. I had specifics in mind for what I wanted and the kind of man I wanted to meet. We discussed details, I wanted STD-free partner, with proof or I would need condoms. We discussed safety arrangements.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a hotel bar, I had already gotten a room. I wanted to meet him first and talk to him and get a feeling about the situation. He was a much larger man than I expected but nice looking and in good shape. We got along well and I felt comfortable with him and I asked him to go to the room and take a shower and I would come up in a few minutes, he agreed. I would need more room to describe what happened from there. When he came out of the shower and took the towel off I was totally shocked. I had seen photos of him nude but I was amazed at the size of his penis, it was incredible. He was a very tall man and muscular, and dark-skinned. Even with his physical size, his penis was just incredibly large. I had never been with a man with a big penis before and there was no way I was going to be able to take his penis. The point of meeting him was I wanted to see what it would be like to have a casual sexual relationship with a well endowed black man. But he was more than I expected, and I really got excited just looking at his big dark body and the huge penis hanging between his legs. My first thought was to end the night and ask him to leave but I just was too horny looking at him to do that. I pulled him over to the bed and set down. I wanted to feel that big thing in my hands, I had never felt anything like it before, he was more than twice as big as my ex, I couldn’t get my hands around it. It had big veins up and down, his skin was almost black and looked shiny, the head of it was too big to fit in my mouth I was sure. I ran my hands around the head of it and up and down the shaft it made me so hot to feel the huge long thing in my hands, it felt so strong and I could feel it growing in my hands. I moved one hand down and cupped his big black balls, they were heavy with his cum and it was so sexy the way they hung down under his shaft. I will have to tell the rest later, I am getting so horny remembering all this. The night went on for quite a while.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We barely slept all night, he left early in the morning after we helped each other cum. For the last time. I still feel very horny about him. We have met several times since then and will in the future. I do not have any expectations for the relationship other than a great sexual relationship. He feels the same way, we talked about it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Two of my trusted girfriends.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Incredible sex and a completely new and different experience.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being able to fully satisfy my partner and myself yet.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Somewhat, not totally. I have done it again and will continue to as well.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? There is more to tell that I have not finished. The details were incredible.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had never really had casual sex before this happened. I have engaged in other casual sexual experiences since this one and will continue. Just need to do your homework and not be with just anyone and be very careful.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it is a great place for men and women to share their sexual experiences.
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