What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Mildly bi-curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35

Stepping into Swinging

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My girlfriend, “Rose,” is a gorgeous blue-eyed blonde, 5’4″ with natural Cs and a thin waist. The couple we played with were about our age. He was probably 5’10” and 220 lbs — a bit of a tummy, but otherwise quite fit. She was about 5’4″ had long blond hair and lovely breasts that were smaller and somewhat less perky than my girlfriend’s. All of us had manicured front lawns. We didn’t catch their names, so I’ll call them Dick and Jane.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Rose and I have been to this sex club once before, the only one she’s ever been to. Before we started dating, I’d gone to a different club a couple times with a woman I was briefly seeing. This one is swankier (though that’s not saying much) and quite a bit larger. On most nights, they get about 30-40 couples, but on Saturdays, they can easily get 100 couples. This was a Friday. The club has two orgy rooms that can accommodate a dozen or more couples, plus lounge areas and upstairs, doorless rooms that cater to smaller groups or just couples whom others can watch (or join, if invited).

I’m much more sexually adventurous than Rose, but in the two years that we’ve been dating, she’s been game to expand her horizons. She loves sex and comes easily, but she’s not especially kinky. When we went to the club a few months ago, she was comfortable having sex in the orgy room, but she and I didn’t play with others in any way — even touching hands. I was hoping that this time would be a bit different.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived around midnight and found that the place was busier than the previous time; most sex clubs get busiest around 1-3 a.m. We had drinks and watched some porn in the lounge. Ironically, though it is a sex club, the owners never put on group sex porn; it’s all one-on-one (or threesome) porn, and frankly, it’s pretty dull stuff. We joked about how huge all of the male porn stars were and made other comments about the movies, but they seemed to work their charm nonetheless, and after a few minutes, Rose’s breasts were popping out of her dress and I was sucking on her nipples.

After changing out of our clothes and into some provided towels, we headed into the main orgy room. It’s about 15×20 feet, completely covered in mattresses and large pillows. Generally, couples find some space on the floor and have sex with each other, and in some cases, adjacent couples will touch each other. People are quite respectful and will stop touching you if you simply move their hand away or say ‘no thank you,’ but if you’re in that room and you position yourselves close to another couple, it’s fairly likely that you’re ok with a little touching.

Initially we lay down away from the other couples in the room. Rose went down on me for a few minutes, and then I went down on Rose and got her really wet. She indicated that she wanted me to fuck her, and after a few minutes, she came with a little groaning, giving a nice show to the others in the room who could watch us directly or see us in the mirror. At this point, she needed to pee, and since men can’t be alone in the orgy room, I waited for her in the lounge before we headed back into the main orgy room. Our spot had been claimed by another couple, so we lay down elsewhere, and this time, there were couples close by on either side of us. One of these couples — the ones I’ll call Dick and Jane — started caressing Rose’s hand and, getting no resistance from her, eventually ended up caressing her breasts. This was a huge turn-on for me, fucking Rose while watching Jane touching her breasts. Dick soon got in on the action, touching Rose’s breasts with his large hands. Rose’s eyes were closed, so she was not always aware just who was touching her, and that was sexy, too. She brought her hand to her clit and rubbed herself while I continued fucking her and Dick and Jane continued touching her, and she had a massive orgasm, but I wanted to save mine for later, so I just lay beside her until she recovered, and then I went down on her some more before we made our exit to the lounge.

We decided to see if anything special was going on upstairs, but it was pretty deserted — just two couples having sex in two different rooms — so we headed back down to the smaller of the two orgy rooms. That’s when we spotted Dick and Jane again; they were heading into that room, too, and they lay down close to us. Dick asked if it was our first time at the club, and he told us that they’d been there too many times to count. When they lay down next to us, I knew that they wanted to touch us and be touched again, and this time, the touching progressed as Rose got increasingly comfortable with this couple. She started touching Jane’s breasts — the first time she’d touched another woman sexually since some groping in college, she later told me — and Jane, emboldened, started working her hand towards Rose’s pussy. Rose put up no resistance to this and in fact started touching Jane’s pussy, the first time she’d ever done that with another woman. I was hugely turned on. Dick was also taking turns touching Rose’s breasts, and he also put Rose’s hand on his cock as he fucked Jane. Rose came for a third time, and we took yet another break to get a drink in the lounge.

Our night was nearly over — it was close to 2 a.m. and we were both tired, but I still hadn’t come. We found Dick and Jane back in the main orgy room and squeezed in next to them. On our other side was a man having sex with his girlfriend cowgirl style while another woman rode on his chest, and all around the room were people fucking and sucking and sometimes touching other couples; it was a heady scene. Rose told me that she wanted me to come, so after going down on her again, I entered her and started focusing on my own orgasm. Dick and Jane continued touching Rose, Rose was vigorously fapping Jane’s pussy, and I was playing with both women’s tits when I finally had my orgasm, and that brought both women to yet another orgasm (Rose’s 4th on the night). We lay there for a few minutes caressing each other, and then we said quick goodbyes and headed home. The club was still hopping when we left, with plenty of people just arriving.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We took a cab home and talked about some of the things we had enjoyed. Rose had been much more adventurous this time compared to our first visit, and though there were some aspects that she felt a bit unclean about (like touching other people’s body fluids), she seemed much more inclined to going back. I think we’ll be back there within the next two months, and this time we’re going to aim for a Saturday so we can see what a huge orgy really looks like. I can hardly wait.

I’m also hoping that the next time we go, Rose will let another woman lick her pussy while I fuck her, and I’d really love to see Rose go down on a woman while I fuck Rose. I don’t think she’ll ever want another guy to fuck her (or her mouth), but she seems quite comfortable with other women.

As for STDs, Rose and I are fluid-bonded and she’s on the Pill. We didn’t share fluids with the other couple.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Touching another woman’s breasts while fucking Rose; watching Rose touch Jane’s breasts and pussy; knowing that Rose was in ecstasy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? There was nothing bad about this experience. There were a few things I was hoping to see or do that didn’t happen, but there’s always next time, and maybe Rose will be ready for kinkier stuff then.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m even more drawn to Rose than before. The kinkier she gets, the sexier I find her. I am very comfortable watching someone else give my partner pleasure, something I knew before — this experience only solidified that feeling.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sex clubs are great. You see people of many walks of life. There were couples in their 20s and couples in their 60s (the average age was probably 40). The men and women were of a good variety of body types, and most were fit (even if they were a bit heavy). There were people of many different skin tones. It’s a sexy melting pot.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great way to see what others are into and to validate that many of us love sex and are comfortable in our bodies and with our idiosyncratic kinks.

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