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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Blowjob-enthusiast, Submissive, non-monogamoous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Stoned, Spontaneous Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1.5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? One was my boyfriend at the time, with whom I had been for 4 years. The other one was a friend we had met at a music festival two years back. I was very attracted to both them and the three of us used to talk very openly about sex. We decided to go on vacation together and stayed on a campground in a european capital. I and the friend kept joking about sex all the time and made pretty explicit insinuations, indicating that we both would love to have sex. Me and my boyfriend had talked a lot about wanting to have a threesome at some point in our relationship, so I knew that I could keep flirting with the other guy. The two guys also had a very open and funny dynamic with each other, which made the whole situation very nice for everyone.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The evening before our last day, my boyfriend and I had talked about our dynamic as a group and how fun everything was and how there was sexual chemistry between all of us. So that night I decided that – if everything kept going well – I was going to initiate a threesome the next day.
The next day came around and we kept goofing around and getting closer, touching much more intimately. I got more excited and horny every minute that went by. That afternoon we got super high, which tends to increase my horniness, and led me to tell the guys that I wanted to feel their dicks inside me right then, right there. I left to got to the bathroom and when I got back, I was welcomed by the two in the camper van with all the curtains closed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started undressing each other and I went back and forth between making out with each of the guys. Both of them caressed my body at the same time, which felt amazing. I got on my knees in front of them while they sat on the back seats of that VW camping van. I started sucking and stimulating their dicks, alternating between the two. After a while they started to focus on me again and my boyfriend started fingering and fucking me, while I was giving head to our friend. My boyfriend knew which buttons to push on me, so I came, while the other guy had his cock down my throat. It didn’t take much longer until my boyfriend came inside me, leaving me dripping with my own juices and his cum.
I love blowjobs, so I kept sucking the other guy’s dick until he came all over my tits, while my boyfriend kept caressing me, letting me know that he liked what he saw.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cuddled for a bit and talked about what happened. We decided that all of it was a lot of fun and pretty much meant to be. The three of us had sex two more times in the following months, which were as satisfying as the first time.
This threesome let to me and my boyfriend having an open-relationship, which made me realize, that I am really not that into monogamy, and love exploring other options. I am really happy that it happened because it opened a whole new world for me. It made me get to know myself, my sexuality and preferred relationship-style a whole lot better.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my best friends and they were very interested in my experience. I didn’t feel judged at all.
I also talk with most of my sexual partners about that experience, if threesomes or our sexual history comes up in conversation. It usually is met with curiousness.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The way it opened up our conversation about open relationships and increased our trust in each other.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We were on a campground right next to the sinks, where people go wash their dishes. It happened in the early evening, which means that probably a bunch of people (and children) were able to hear and see what we were doing in the van.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not the hookup in particular, but the months of the open relationship that followed that threesome

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people should be able to live openly with their sexuality. I enjoy being able to act on any attraction that I feel, and if I find myself in a situation where I want to have consensual sex with someone, I can do that.
I feel that there is a lot of unnecessary shame engrained in some people regarding casual sex and hookups leading to frustration, conflicts, and judgment. I would love to see a world, where nobody would have to feel that shame and was able to do whatever they desire.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great Project! There is a lot to be learned and taught.

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