Ever wonder how to turn a casual date into something more sexual without being too explicit? Enjoy some physical contact without going too far? Test the waters so you can decide on whether you want to swim in them? Relax and get “in the mood” before sexual play? Thank your partner for being so generous or passionate or understanding during sex?
Try a massage.
Instead of inviting a Tinder date over to, ahem, “watch Netflix,” invite them over for a massage. It sets the stage for something physical without creating explicit sexual expectations. (It’s also probably closer to your true intentions and hopes for the evening.)
A massage can be an excellent way to make that all-too-often awkward transition from “we’re just having a glass of wine and chatting” to “shall we move on to having sex now”? Just offer them a back rub or a foot rub. Or ask for one. It’s an easy and seamless way to shed some clothing off, get (re)acquainted with each others bodies, get the sexual and sensual energy going. Once you have your hands on their skin, ask them how they like it, and listen for feedback: harder, deeper, lower, gentler…
Or end the hookup with a massage. Instead of passing out the minute after your orgasm, or putting on your clothes with cum still dripping off your body, why not run your hands up and down your lover for a bit? It gives a perfect, well-rounded ending to the experience, reaffirming, making them feel good, cared for, and respected. It doesn’t matter how well you know the person, or how committed you are. You can start or end with a massage even the most casual of casual hookups: the iconic one-night stand with a complete stranger.
Some people don’t like massages, but most do… Like us here at the Casual Sex Project. We are total and unapologetic massage sluts. We’ll take a massage from pretty much anyone, anyplace, anytime. And some of our favorite hookups either started or ended with a massage…
For best results, always have a bottle of massage oil handy next to your bed. You want to appear like a pro, and don’t want to interrupt the momentum. It’s worth investing in good bottle of oil. Our favorite? TRUST Intimacy massage oil. Why? Because it’s incredibly smooth and silky, doesn’t get all gooey afterwards, it’s made entirely out of food-grade oils (apricot kernel, avocado, and grape seed), it’s body-safe (flavorless, scent-free, and vagina-friendly). It’s even Kosher and vegan, if you care about those things. And if you’re not using condoms (which for hookups, we really hope you are!), it can double up as lube!
Get your bottle for 20% off with discount code “CSP” on trustintimacy.com; then tell us whether you love it as much as we do. And of course, if you use it for your hookups, we sure hope you’ll share some of those stories!
Do you have any hookup stories to share incorporating a massage? Something that started with a back rub, or ended with a full body massage? Or try it out and let us know how it went? Share your story here!