Best First Time

by Riya

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Social Service Worker
What’s your current relationship status? Taken
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Best First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Just happened and still going on

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a much older man at the time of the hook up. I was 18, he was in his mid-50s. He’s an uncle. We knew each others family, he’s a good friend of my dads. Before the hook up I thought he was hot and he always seemed to be horny. He just turns me on.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This hook up happened at his house. He always commented on how nice I was and how responsible he would always watch me. He even offered me to tutor his nieces. Then one day he called me over got naked and it just happened so spontaneously.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He offered me some water came back with no clothes on… He began speaking to me dirty and reassuring its fine. He began kissing me everywhere and gradually took my clothes off. I was so wet I hesitated at first but then went along with it. He picked me up took me to the bedroom he played with my breast sucked my nipples and played with my pussy. Rubbing around my things fingering my pussy Eventually eating me out. Being a virgin, I was so excited and wet. I gave him a blowjob and we also did 69. He played with my body touching and licking both my breast and pussy. He even ate out my ass and i ate his..next thing i know he is thrusting his big dick in my tight pussy. We did various positions recerse cow girl he was on top we even did anal. It felt so good i came three times. He finished in my mouth.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up we laid in bed for a while, then I started getting ready but before I could put my clothes on he began kissing my neck and fingering me again.
He said let’s just have sex one more time because he thought we would never hook up again after that day. The next day all I could do is think about him and the amazing sex we had both times. I couldn’t wait to see him again. My hopes were that we could talk about it and see if we could do this again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The whole experience, he made me feel special, it was about me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes definitely older the better

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It continued on for a while and I love it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Causal sex is good but make sure your comfortable and open conversations should happen to put everyone involved at ease.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its a great project that builds awareness and lets people share their experiences.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!