First Time

by J

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Denver
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? teacher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was at a bathhouse for a massage. A girl I was seeing at the time sent me so I could relax. I knew it was only men that would be there and that clothing was not allowed so I set the appointment for early in the morning. I wasn’t nervous about being surrounded by other naked men. I didn’t expect anything to happen while I was there.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been in the in the sauna alone for about 20 minutes since it had just opened. I spent some time walking around and seeing what was there. I was in the hot tub when he walked in. He was older and had long hair. His cock wasn’t hard. I watched him shower and walk over to the hot tub. He sat on the edge of it right in front of me and soaked his feet for a bit before getting in. At this point I was nervous but tried to act natural. After a few minutes he left to the dry sauna. At this point I took the chance to be alone again and went into the steam room. Still nervous I hung out there for a bit waiting for my massage. The other man came in and positioned himself so I can see his cock again. I glanced a few times but didn’t make it obvious. As I moved around between the hot tub, dry sauna, and steam room, I noticed he was following me and starting to touch himself more. Right when I was getting interested and excited about it, they called me in for my massage.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After the massage I went into a crystal room that has mats on the floor. There were a few more people that had arrived at this time. I lied down and relaxed with my eyes closed for a bit. Eventually the other men left and I noticed the same guy had found me again. After it was empty he stood up and started jerking off while looking at me. I saw him and watched a bit not sure what to do. After a few minutes I couldn’t help it and my cock got rock hard. I touched it once and felt the precum. As soon as I did this he came to lay down next to me. He said something about the massage turning me on. I was looking at his hard dick trying not to cum too soon. Then he reached over and started touching my nipples with one hand and grabbed my dick with the other. Once he started stroking, I reached over and grabbed his. My heart was beating so fast I couldn’t take it and came all over my chest and his hand. I grabbed my towel and cleaned up. As soon as I had wiped it all up I got up and left. Not knowing what to do with him, I didn’t look back.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Since then I’ve been to the sauna one more time and have jerked off with guys about 5-6 more times.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experiencing something new for the first time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m hooked and want to go back and do more of this but it’s hard to find time and people to do it with.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s opened my mind to playing with men.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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