What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
First Time With Wife
How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? First of many
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met S at a college party. We were instantly attracted to each other and flirted. She was 5’8, slender and athletic with nice small firm tits. S had pale skin, blue eyes, and long curly red hair. Eventually, we left the party and went to a dance club with some other mutual friends. We learned that we lived in the same complex and planned to meet again. I was really into her from the beginning and excited to get to know her. A couple days later we went to dinner together and then went to my place where we watched a movie and made out on the floor. Before progressing further she went home.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On our second date, we went with some friends to an outdoor movie where we laid down at blankets. At some point during the movie, she told me that she was really horny and grabbed my hand and put it between her leg to show me how hot her pussy was. After the movie, we headed back to my place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once getting to my place, we went straight to my room and made out on my bed before taking off each other’s clothes. Her body was amazing and I told her so. I didn’t have a condom so she told me that we should 69. She straddled my face as I ate her pussy and she sucked my cock. Eventually, she made me cum in her mouth and swallowed. I don’t remember if I told her I was going to cum.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was really excited to continue seeing her. She made me get a STI test before we fucked a few weeks later. We eventually got married and have been together for 18 years.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I was excited to meet someone who was sexually open.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? No problems with casual sex in the abstract.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting
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