Just Him

by Greta

Gender: Female

Age: 48
Race/ethnicity: Latin
Location: PR
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Attorney
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: no one
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 250
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Just Him

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? New guy

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is very handsome. I know him just a little. We met online.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began at his home. It was kind of planned because we already talked by phone about sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had oral, vaginal and anal sex. I felt like I was not in my comfort zone. I didnt have an orgasm. He was very kind, sexy and gentle but he didn’t do stuff to put me in the way of having an orgasm. The stuff that he did were with the intentions to pleased him. He was not a good lover.  He had an orgasm and a very good one. I did my part very well. When we finished, correct, when he finished I dressed up and left the room. He didnt ask me to sleep over, even though it was very late at night.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I love to have sex and he is a very handsome, intelligent and cute guy.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We drank just a couple of glasses of wine.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we finished, he finished, I asked him if he had the intentions of see me again. He said, of course, why not, I like you. I was completely ok with the hookup. I didnt have any real expectations after having sex with him. I know what is the deal usually: We never know if they are going to see you again. So, when he said that he was going to contact me again, I was surprised. We continue seeing each other, well having sex from time to time. I am the one that contact him. He is still a bad lover, I had never had an orgasm with him. I continue contacting him because I want the idea that somebody is around me, even though I know that I am the one that has the interest in the contact. I really feel like the protagonist of Bridesmaid with the first lover.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told the story to all my close friends. They were completely ok with that. They are like me, they have the same behavior.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, it was completely consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I don’t regret it at all.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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