What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 64
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Neighbor’s Wife
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? First of many
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was an older black woman, 5’9″, and about 150lbs. I am a white male widower. She and her husband have been my neighbors for over 3 years. I always thought she was hot, but with her being married, I kept my distance.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, I got a call from the neighbor’s husband who was traveling for business, that at 9PM they had a water leak and asked if I would go over and check it out and at least turn off the water. So I checked it out and had the part in my garage to fix it. I called the woman’s husband and told him it was done.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After the repair job, she offered me a glass of wine on the patio and when she delivered it, she said she appreciated my help. I said no problem. After a couple of glasses of wine, she went in for more, and low and behold came out naked. I said this wasn’t right. She said she and her husband have an open relationship. So, one thing led to another and we were naked together in the jacuzzi. Then it lead to the bed and we had hot sex for hours. She said if I ever get bored to remember she was always here. Then in the moonlight, I picked up my clothes and believe it or not she walked me over to my house, both of us naked, but out here on a private road in the middle of nowhere, no one saw us.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning, she came over and we talked. She said she enjoyed last night and if I ever needed something again to just come on over. She invited me over when her husband was home and all three of us were naked and having fun.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just her and even her husband, and he had no problem and even invited me over for more as he travels a lot for business and I seem like a trusting guy.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Got to know my neighbors a lot better.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? In a way but am cautious
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We were adults and I think with me being widowed it was time. It couldn’t have been with a more perfect person. Living alone and with her husband traveling, she comes and spends time at my house also.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If it feels right to do it, I will do it in the right time.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Don’t know about it.
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