A Lost Friend



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Elk City
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? other
What’s your current relationship status?
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Like to explore
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

A Lost Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? When I first met Mike, he was tall and skinny, but good looking. He had green eyes with sandy blond hair. We met at a business management class and hit it off as friends right from the start. We never dated, but we talked a lot and even had drinks together as good friends. I was interested in him but he seemed to have other plans. A few times a week we would spend time together, sometimes even setting the other up on blind dates. After about four years, he moved far away from Chicago. We talked on and off for a few months, and then time just slipped away.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A couple of years went by without even a letter. Then one day, I was walking to a local bar near my new apartment and I ran into him. He had changed a lot. He was fitter and had built some muscles, I barely recognized him. When I did realize it was Mike, I stopped him right there on the street. The first question out of my mouth was, of course, when did he get back in town. He was only going to be in town for a couple weeks before he went back to Dallas. I invited him to the bar I was headed to, to catch up on old times. After two drinks and a lot of questions, I made the first move, asking him to come and see my new place. He accepted and off we went.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the way back to my place I could not keep my eyes off of his new body. Even his butt was tight and looking really good. I decided right there that I was not going to let him get away so easily this time. Making it back to my place, I got us a beer and we sat on the sofa to talk, that is, until I moved in for a kiss. Mike didn’t even resist. Our tongues wrestled and my hands found their way up his shirt to his bare chest. It wasn’t long before we were both naked and I was on my knees in front of him. His large cock in my left hand and his sack in my right. His large head filled my mouth as I began bobbing up and down tasting the warm droplets of clear liquid coming from his slit. I was getting wetter by the second and he knew it. I had never imagined in a million years that he was built this way. Long, thick, and very hard. He raised my head up and motioned for me to sit on his cock. As I did, my lips parted, taking him. I felt as if I was in a porno and getting my very first cock. Rocking back and forth, riding up and down, I began to moan as he stretched me wide. His hands found my clit and made baby circles around it, getting me even closer to my first orgasm of the night. He stood up with me still on him pushing my back up against the wall, and he began thrusting deeper and deeper until we both climaxed at the same time. Afterward, he left, but he returned the next morning, catching me just as I got out of the shower. We had a ten minute quick fuck and said our goodbyes.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up he left. We still talk every once in a while. I have no regrets about the time we spent together. I wish that we could at least see each other every so often. I would do it again and again if I had the chance.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being with someone that I’ve known for so long. Fulfilling a need to know what I missed when he was around more.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Him leaving I guess.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I miss him

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has never really been a thing for me. This was a time that I felt like I needed to do to fulfill a need to know.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is nice to see.

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