What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Torrance, US
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
“An Offer I Couldn’t Refuse”
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 20 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a tall blond with huge breasts and an devilish smile. She was one of my best friend’s wife. We had not hooked up before. I liked her a lot. I felt my buddy had chosen a cool second wife. She had a heart of gold.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? To say that I was shocked would be an understatement. My buddy approached me saying his wife really liked me. I responded that I liked her too. He told me I was missing his point. He told me his wife really liked me and wanted to fuck me. Now I knew they were into the lifestyle, but I told him that he would kill me if I fucked her. He told me he would kill me if I didn’t. With an offer like that, who was I to refuse?
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first time his wife and I met, he was at work on a week night. I came over, we smoked, and chatted. She was in her underwear with a tank top that couldn’t cover much of her big breasts. We started making out and I was sucking on those big breasts, but then I got cold feet. I told her I couldn’t do this so I just left. Needless to say, my buddy contacted me the next day adamant about my fucking his wife. So I came over the next night as he was gone. I walked into the house and she called to me from their room. As I entered the room, she was completely naked, spread eagled, saying to give her what she wanted. I stripped quickly and entered her missionary. We went for about fifteen minutes before I flooded her wet pussy with her ankles up over my head. We then rested briefly. She then said she wanted more and began to suck on my cock. She felt like a vacuum and had me up in no time. I then took her doggy style. She was very vocal in this position and we continued for about a half hour. We rested again and then she said she was ready again. She sucked me off again and then got on top of me. She then rode me, and when I say rode, that was an understatement. She must have been a cowgirl in another life, because she wrecked me. I didn’t last that long. Her riding skills were just too intense. After we were done, I got dressed and staggered out of their house. It was awesome! We all three did meet that weekend for an MFM and that was insane. My buddy and I used all of her holes and she was insatiable. She took three loads from both of us and wanted more. She wore both of us.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We never did it again, but made plans to. It just didn’t materialize. We continued to be friends, but I moved back to the West Coast. We are still friends today. It was my introduction into the lifestyle.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We talked to each other about it. We wanted to do it more.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My buddy’s wife was a firecracker!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It introduced me into the lifestyle.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I loved it!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s great! I’m still in the lifestyle today.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s cool and fun!
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