Best Birthday Ever!

by Chanel

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Poland, Warsaw
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Translator
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Best Birthday ever!

How long ago did this hookup happen? Just over 1 yr ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met via tinder and saw each other just once before the hookup (which wasn’t intended). We didn’t have sex before but I had a suspicion that it would end this way.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The night before my birthday, he invited me to his house for a movie. Alcohol was involved and before I knew it I was on the floor vomiting. So instead of going back to our homes (he and his family didn’t live there yet), he decided that it was better to go to sleep upstairs. And just like that, we got naked and started having sex. It was him who started it by giving me head.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had oral and later anal sex and then some more oral (rimming) and after cumming, we collapsed and went to sleep.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? At the time, I thought that maybe something more could happen between us but it never did. We stayed friends and had just one more sexual encounter at the beginning of the following year.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Power / Dominance, Making new friends, Everyone else was/is doing it, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends. They reacted with approval

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The rimming which led to orgasm

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Due to central heating being off, it was cold

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realise that casual sex can be great

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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