Best Business Trip Ever!

by AngloPak

Gender: Female
Age: 42
Race/ethnicity: Mixed
Current location: California
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Best Business Trip Ever!

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I lived on the East Coast 15 years ago for a short time. Through work i came across Mark. I was instantly and intensely attracted to him from the very first time i met him. He was really good looking and had this amazing smile and mesmerizing eyes. We hung out a bit as friends at that time and even though there was this obvious mutual attraction we never spoke about it. I relocated to the West Coast and we lost touch completely after i moved.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Fast forward 13 years and I randomly remembered Mark. I looked him up on Facebook. He was surprisingly single and i married, but seriously unhappy & disconnected in it. We exchanged some flirtatious messages. I had started making business trips to the East Coast and on one of those trips we decided to meet. I think he made a couple of suggestions of where we could meet and one of them was his place and I took him up on that offer. I wasn’t thinking sex when i agreed to meet him at his place, but i guess on some level I was open to all possibilities.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I first saw him, I thought he looked amazing. We spent about an hour talking and catching up then he gave me a tour of his house. I still wasn’t thinking sex, but when the tour terminated in his bedroom and he came up behind me and touched me, I immediately swung around and we started kissing.  We got naked so fast, it was frantic and i really wanted him. I was not entirely sober and don’t recall all the details but more how I felt. I think we both might have been a bit nervous as both of us had not been sexually active in a while. There was oral – giving and receiving, different positions, what I remember the most is having this insane level of desire for him and not wanting the experience to end.  He is an amazing lover, open and communicates well, affectionate and passionate. Even though it was casual, he never made me feel like a one night stand.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Don’t remember.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None and no.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? There was great sexual chemistry between us. I had not had sex in a long time prior to this encounter and he was someone that i trusted and felt comfortable with.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol for me during the first encounter. I was pretty tipsy but not drunk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Over the last 2 years we have continued to meet while i’ve been on business trips (every couple of months). I think except for one time, we have always had sex every time we have met. We have done other things too such as watch movies, have dinner. The sex got even better as we got more comfortable with each other and got to know each other sexually. Mind blowing would not be an exaggeration for how i would describe many of the encounters. At one point, early on, i became this hypersexual person in any interaction i had with him, i was sending him naked photos of myself and he became the only man i was fantasizing about sexually and this was at times on a daily basis, multiple times a day! Inevitably I developed feelings for Mark but it’s not something i feel comfortable discussing with him as i know where the line is and that nothing else is possible.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Absolutely no one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I got to experience what was hands down my greatest sexual experiences ever. Also through this I have discovered more about what I like sexually and got to do this in a really safe place. The hardest was developing romantic feelings for him – the inevitable consequence for me that comes along with exclusively sleeping with someone over a period of time. Its extremely hard for me to to keep it casual. At times it’s been heartbreaking to have to put any feelings on the back burner and know you can’t  have expectations of anything more. Another negative is that the experience has provided me with an outlet for the total lack of intimacy I was/am experiencing in my marriage and therefore not forcing me to deal with my broken marriage one way or the other. Mark was the first experience i have had of casual sex and will be my last. Even though i have no regrets, i now know I’m incapable of having casual sex without getting emotionally involved.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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