What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Reading, U.K.
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? PhD candidate
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My best experience of oral sex? Possibly!
How long ago did this hookup happen? In the last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Hook-up that will develop into friends with benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Blonde. Neither thin nor overweight, though probably below average weight. Attractive.
Matched with them on Tinder that day and decided to meet in the evening.
Met them at a bar/restaurant just for drinks that evening.
I liked her and saw the positives in her character. We were able to chat about a lot of interesting topics (e.g. politics, Brexit, sex). There were some parts of her personality that I was not so keen on, but this didn’t mean that I wouldn’t like her as a friend. At the same time, it was immediately obvious this could never be a relationship.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was clear that we were both people that happily engaged in casual sex. She suggested leaving the bar and going for ‘a walk’, which I took to mean ‘we could go back to yours’, so I suggested walking back to mine where we could have another drink. There was very clear body language on her part that she was interested in sex. I instigated some kissing with complete confidence that it would be welcomed. However, later it was clear that the mixture of weed and alcohol made her slightly ‘fucked’. She wasn’t up for sex despite saying that ‘I really want to fuck you because you are really hot’. I think this was more due to not being in the right state rather than issues of consent. Later on after some food and time spent talking and watching stuff on youtube, she was in a much better state and she instigated the sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She quickly proceeded to perform oral foreplay on me. She had an “oral fixation” and loved performing it on men. She also had no gag reflex, meaning she could fit my whole penis in her mouth with no issues. She stimulated me in so many different ways in so many different places, all in the context of oral sex, much of it while looking at me. She was also clearly enjoying it. I never felt so much on the verge of cumming during oral sex. I didn’t want to cum in her mouth or over her face, and I also wanted to have vaginal sex, so I kept stopping her when I was becoming too stimulated. I then proceeded to finger her and give her some oral, but she was quite happy to move on to vaginal.We then had vaginal sex, but I didn’t last long before I came. Not surprising giving how stimulated I was! To make sure she had an orgasm, I stimulated her with my fingers after. I felt that she has given me such great oral that I wanted to make sure she was more than satisfied. She was.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had a friendly chat. I walked her back to her place to make sure she got home safely. She was going away for the next couple of weeks. After this, we are around in the same area for a few weeks, and I think we both hope to have a few more casual encounters.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one (yet)
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The amazing oral experience. She had amazing skills!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Waiting until both of us felt that she was in the state to consent and actually have good sex. We both felt frustrated by this, but it was worth waiting until this moment rather than having nonconsensual and crappy sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No/
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is a fantastic, important par of my life. I think society should be more positive about it as I think there are many more people whom can benefit from it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fanbloodytastic!
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