Current location: San Francisco
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Business owner
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Best Friend’s Wife
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was average height, white, curvy and very busty. Cute, girl-next-door look, very much my “type”. She was also my best friends wife. We had known each other for several years and we hung out together all the time. We often would hot tub together naked (this was SF after all) but nothing ever came out of it except for some flirtatious talk.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been hanging out at their house with my buddy. We were just BS’ing and talking about random stuff while drinking whiskey. She was in and out, on her computer though for most of the evening. My wife was working the night shift at her job so I was in no hurry to get home. He and I got pretty drunk by the end of the evening. I said that I needed to get home and he said that he was going to go to bed and pass out. His wife commented that I was “too drunk to drive” and suggested that I crash on the couch. But I said that I couldn’t as I had to be there to open my store first thing in the morning. She offered to drive me home and then come back in my car first thing in the morning to pick me up so I could make it to work. My buddy had already wandered off to bed and I could hear him snoring. She was very insistent so I give in. She told me to wait a minute for her to change to go out. She was in flannel PJ’s. She came out in a skirt, heels, hair done and looking sexy as all hell. I can remember thinking that it was odd, as neither she nor my wife ever dressed like that. Although I had made comments on many, many occasions that I liked it when women did dress sexy like this. But I was quite drunk and could not focus on much at the time.
She drove me home and pulled into a parking spot at my apartment. She asked if this spot was the best one and I told her that it was. She responded “Damn that’s too bad, there is too much light here and I really wanted to give you a blow job”. Now we had said some flirty stuff before but never to this level. But again, drunk, so I just thought she was being silly. So I “played along” and said, well the lights over there are burned out. She promptly started the car back up and drove over to where I indicated.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as we got to the parking spot she turned off the car, got on her knees in her seat, unzipped my pants and went down on me. I was stunned and surprised and even with those emotions and being as drunk as I was I still climaxed quickly.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did, she did not.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She often complained to my wife that their sex life was very lackluster and that he would not do the things that she wanted him to do with her.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? She was sober, I was quite drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She came and picked me up and drove me to work the next day. There we had sex in the back room. We had sex two or three times a month for the next two years. It lasted until my friend got a new job and they moved away.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual and we both wanted it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. They divorced about two years after they moved. Mostly because he treated her rudely.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It opened my eyes to a great deal. Women and their desire for sex. My own appeal to the opposite sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I am not proud of having sex with a married woman, much less my friend’s wife. I was in a bad place myself. However I feel that had it not happened that they would have stayed married. In fact, I feel that it helped give me the confidence to leave the abusive relationship that I was in. In all both of them as well as myself found people who actually made them happy. The only person who made out badly is my ex who I realized was not a nice person and I doubt if she will ever be happy or is even capable of being happy.
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