by Silly Girl
Current location: England
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Open minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? A couple of weeks ago
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I would consider my partner as one of my best friends. I don’t have many friends so the friends that I do have are important to me. We’ve known each other for 8 years and have been friends for 4. They are very attractive, I’m not usually into muscly tough guys but he’s the exception. We liked each other when we were younger but we both drifted apart I guess. We began speaking again after his last relationship didn’t work out.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well he’s a typical guy, constant horn. He always used to ask me to be friends with benefits but I was never keen on the idea. He admitted he didn’t like me in that way. I don’t know how but he managed to convince me to try it out (I’m very frigid and I very much dislike contact so this was a big deal). So we both decided to give it a go.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Over the next 2 weeks we met up often and a lot of oral sex was involved, and I really enjoyed it. He really enjoyed it too. We then met up with the intention of having sex (plain good ol’ vanilla). It was the best thing I had ever experienced, I had never shagged anyone out of a relationship before. They took my needs into consideration. It ended with us both lying there, I was barely able to stay awake.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had multiple. He orgasmed too.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We wore protection. (This is NOT enough to prevent pregnancy, condoms are NOT 100% effective). I am using backup contraception (pill). We did not discuss STI history, I know him well enough to know that he would tell me.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was lonely. I was also very attracted to this guy.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No alcohol, no drugs.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I hoped it would happen again, but unfortunately it did not. He said he really enjoyed it but he didn’t expect anything sexual from me, which is actually quite disappointing. We still speak but he is… Off.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t even told my friends. They would judge me for it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do not regret the sex. Only the circumstances in which it took place. I was just the friend that was there.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It gave me a different view on casual sex, I would definitely do it again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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