What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Nigeria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Can’t remember
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Finger Banging In Car
How long ago did this hookup happen? Late last year
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Typing this now, I remember I know him from high school, but he was years above me so we never talked. However, sometime last year, he got a job at my office. I remembered him and thought he was still attractive, but we never talked. I did ask him if he went to my high school but that wasn’t until months later when I found his debit card. I had returned it to him and then we started exchanging messages, funny at first and then flirty later. I didn’t exactly like him, I just thought he was/is attractive and funny.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So sometime in December after he told me he liked me. He was in my neighborhood and asked to see me. He came with his friend so I didn’t expect anything to happen. I’m actually aloof when it comes to things like this, but yeah his friend had to make a call so he walked down my street, giving us time to be alone.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started with him grabbing my waist and kissing my back and then he suddenly kissed me ( I smiled internally but didn’t show any real emotions physically). He kissed me again and somehow got me to go into his car with him. At that point, I knew he wanted to make out so I tried to distract him by talking because I didn’t want to do that with people around (it was dark btw), but he shut me up by kissing me again and things got really intense. Somehow he zipped my dress down and start kissing my boobs and then his fingers went up into my vagina. I tried to stop him, but I was so horny I let it happen. He finger banged me so hard I could hear myself moaning so loud. Then his friend returned and I had to get out of his car. Before I did, I had cum on his fingers so he put them in his mouth and licked everything while I straddled him. It was disgusting and wildly erotic at the same time. I might have cum more than once but I don’t remember.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still talk and we still haven’t fucked despite having made out a couple of times and him eating me out, but time and chance have prevented it, plus we have different orientations so I mostly don’t want to talk to him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend and she thought him licking his fingers after finger banging me was nasty.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His fingers in my vagina.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His friend stopping us with his looking presence.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great initiative.
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