First Meeting

by mbitaah

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Cameroon
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? non
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? non
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? non

first meeting

How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is a teacher and a mother of 1 but 10 years younger then me. I saw her on facebook we started chatting, she told me her story not knowing i am engaged. We gave rende vous that failed i failed them intentionally because i was not sure of her. After the third one and her softness on the phone i started falling for her and finally meet her at the fourth meeting.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When we metfor the first time it was like a suprise and she was cos we had shared our nakedness online and knew every bodies thought. She started by telling to show my dick life as i did online, i asked her to start , since it was in a restaurant she openly told me we should live and go to my house where it will happen but unfortunately my fiancée was home that day, so i told her my cousins are at home and it will be difficult. So she propose a hotel and i told her i was not financially viable and she offered to fund the bills and we left.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As we arrive the hotel she undress and ask me if this is not what i saw online, i confirmed and she said she was not sure that i should show her what she saw online, it was difficult but i finally pull down my trouser since i was already hot after seeing her body. She told me she wanted to feel it . she came up held my dick and started to swallow. I felt like it was raining over me, she sucked like for 10minutes and ask me to go for her pussy. I told her i was not used and can only suck her breast and romance her. She accepted and within a minutes she told me she need to feel it inside but unfortunately it was our first meeting and i need a condom and that was the only option and there was none around and she need to cum and me also so we started oral sex that last for 30minutes.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had diner and seperated

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None except casual sex project now waiting for a reaction

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The dinner and the oral sex was a classic

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We did not know each other physically and did not trust.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? For me i discovering that its possible for people to meet the first time and had sex casually, it has change me very positively about sexuality.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A goid forum

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!