My First Time with Another Man



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42 yo
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Indiana
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? HOUSEWIFE
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? no
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First Time With Another Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 5’8” about 170lbs short hair, good looking.He was hubby best friend I had know him for about 6 years.He hung out with my hubby a lot. He was a nice guy and a lot like my hubby in many ways. He was a friend I like him as a friend him and his wife went out with my hubby and i a lot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It happen at our house. My hubby talk me into it. We been married for 4 years and hubby would bring home Penthouse and would mark stories for me to read. Most of them were about guys sharing there wife’s. I was shy and a virgin when we got married. It took awhile but he kept telling me I should try it. It would me something different. HE told me his best friend Joe like one night during sex he talk me into it. He said him and Joe were going fishing Sat. evening and they were camping out and Joe would come see me that night. Joe call me Sat. and ask if I was o.k. with him coming by. I said yes.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was nervous but kind of excited. I was watching tv in my nightie no bra but panties. About 9 p.m. the door bell rang it was Joe.I let him we went and sit on couch we talk some my nightie was short and low cut. As we talk i felt my nipples getting hard and I was getting a little wet. Soon he leaned over kissing me it wasn’t long before we were making out. His hands started feeling my tits as we made out. Then one hand went between my legs I open them some. He smiled saying oh my you are wet. He pull my panties off I help him. I was hotter than ever he was fingering me i climaxed moaning loud. He pull my nightie off of me and suck my neck and nipples. I was loving it as he took his time with me. Then he stood up and strip. it was first time i seen another man naked he was hard and kind of big. my hubby is uncut and Joe was cut.I spread my legs as he got on top of me we made out more.I could feel his cock rubbing my clit I move trying to get him in me I want him bad. He reach down sliding his cock in me I moan loud again. Joe said oh my you’re so tight. We fuck for I bet 45 mins. i climaxed a lot. I never did that before. soon he moanED and I felt him shoot cum in me. we made out more and we made love again. About 2 a.m i walk him to the door and as we kiss he said he loved it and wanted more. I said oh yes me too. So we sit up another date.He was best lover I had had. We talk about a lot of things.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? i took shower and went to bed i was worn out. never had anyone like him. i felt good about it. I knew Joe and I would do it again. I like him a lot maybe even love him. We still make love a lot.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Joe took his time talking and lots of fore play. He was long lasting too.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He had to leave.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was great.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If it done right it great.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it so far.

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