First Time…but Didn’t Fuck



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time … but Didn’t Fuck

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2003 (13 yrs ago)

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Cindy was a short 5 ft 3 white Caucasian girl. She was a brunette with a quirky smile. Not super hot but had the girl-next-door look. Had a nice voice and was very friendly. She used to go to the local college and I met her at an university event. We started talking about stuff and quickly found each other interesting and had things in common. I had known her for about 6 months to a year before we hooked up. I got her number and spoke to her a couple of times on phone. I was certainly attracted to her but at the time I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When I met her first I used to live with my distant family so couldn’t get her home but I moved out soon after. I moved out in the summer and planned to meet her at the university. We walked around the campus. It was nice. We were holding hands brushing off each other occasionally. We kissed once as we were walking. This was my first time kissing a girl. EVER! I was 20-21 and she was 18-19. She was very inexperienced as well. Given it was summer all the class rooms were empty. We went to one of the classrooms and I sat on a chair and she sat in my lap.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out hardcore. Exploring each other’s tongue. It was a very strange feeling for me as this was my first time touching a girl in a sexual way and feeling the things I was feeling at the time. She started unbuttoning my shirt and started kissing on my neck and chest. I was touching her all over her body. We were really enjoying the make out session. But it was starting to get uncomfortable given the way we were seated. I remember seeing tits for the time first time. They were small. Very small. But nice firm and perky. I started sucking her nipples. I was in heaven!!

It was so quiet that we weren’t really afraid of getting caught but it was still a turn on to be making out like this in an empty classroom. Still we couldn’t go any further. I asked her if she would like to come back to my place and she said yes. I remember walking to the bus stop and sitting across her in the bus and thinking … my god, I am going to see this woman entirely naked today.

Got to my place and put on some tunes on the radio. We danced a bit and started taking each other’s clothes off. She still had her panties on. I guess at this point given we were both virgins, neither one of us had a clue what to do next. We talked quickly and agreed mutually that we both weren’t comfortable going all the way. So we did everything else but fuck. Our naked bodies were just rubbing off each other and given it was both our first time it was driving both of us insane. We were just taking time to really enjoy each other. At times I could just see her rolling her eyes back and feeling satisfied. We had been at it for hours and it was getting extremely difficult to hold it in any longer. I got on her back and puller her panties down and came all over her ass.

We were both exhausted at this point. We just lied next to each other and smiled and napped for a bit.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both got dressed and I walked her back to the bus station. We kept in touch off and on after that. She came to my house a couple of more times and we did pretty much the exact same thing. Got naked but never fucked. I moved out of the city after finishing school (university) and then lost touch completely.

The feeling about her and the incident has certainly changed with time. At the time I felt bad. She really liked me and wanted to be in a relationship and perhaps go all the way. I didn’t feel the same about her. At the time I felt like I used her. But thinking back there really wasn’t any commitment. Were both young and having fun.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Everyone else was/is doing it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one specifically. Couple of friends in university. They were okay.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was my first time. Everything was great.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I am a tits fan. She had really small tits. But it was still great. I guess the only other thing is I feel she wanted to be with me and I only wanted this to be a casual fling. I feel in some weird way she believed that if she were to do this it will lead to a relationship. Even though we never talked or discussed things much I feel bad for that.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic. I feel like people need to comment more on each other’s stories.

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