First time with FWB

by Allie

Gender: Female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First time with FWB

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago

How would you best classify this hookup: Fuck-buddies, Friends-with-benefits, First

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him at the airport several years ago. We didn’t keep in touch. Until last year, we somehow found each other on social network and started talking to each other. He’s somewhat older than me. This is the first time we hookup. And I feel quite intimate with him. We chatted a lot (and sexting too). And later on we decided to go to a movie together but nothing happened that time. I guess I can say that both of us were attracted to each other. And this month will be his last month here before going abroad (and will not be back in years). So we met up at the mall and went to his house.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It happened at his house. We’ve been talking about having sex while chatting for sometimes. (So I guess that’s planning.) We went up to his room and started to watch movie in bed. We cuddled a bit.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We cuddled and started to make out. And he fingered me. I told him that this will me my first time. So he said he will be gentle. We started taking each others clothes off. Then he performed oral on me. He’s really good. Things were heating up pretty quick. We made out a lot. Then I felt ready and he started going inside. It really did hurt. He asked if I wanted him to stop. I didn’t want to just get hurt for nothing, so we kept on. He was gentle. And when I was feeling better with the pain, we changed into doggy then cowgirl. I came in cowgirl position. And before he came, we were back in missionary. Then we cleaned up in the shower. After that we cuddled and took a nap (naked). Too bad I couldn’t go for round two when we woke up since it was my first.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Yes, we discussed it before the hookup. And we used condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I’m VERY attracted to him. I could talk to him about things I couldn’t talk to others. That’s kinda made me open up to him more and more.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel normal really. I’m trying not to expect anything because he made it clear that he doesn’t want any long distance relationship. And neither do I. But I can’t help but wanting to talk to him more. I still feel very attracted to him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Just that he was quite tired from jet lag. And I had no experiences at all. And I tried giving him a bj but it wasn’t that good.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I used to think that the v-card is everything. But losing it doesn’t mean losing the definition of myself or anything. Instead I think this is one good experience for me to open myself up. Sex is sex, it’s one way of letting yourself out.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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