Friend Of A Friend

by Liv James

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Admin
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’ll fuck anything once
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Friend Of A Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known him for years, met through friends and nothing happened until a bit over a year ago. Something clicked at a party. That night, we kissed but I wouldn’t invite him inside. I thought it was bad form to sleep with a friend’s friend. My friend gave me the go-ahead so I texted him and he invited me over and the rest is history. He takes pride in his appearance; does his hair, wears jewelry, like a peacock.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We mutually confirmed after our last hookup that I would come back the week after, as we usually do.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked and caught up for an hour or two beforehand. We made out for a while (he’s a good kisser, we have great kiss chemistry) then we undressed each other and he laid me out on the bed. He kissed down my body until he was between my legs and ate me out until I came. He always gets me to come loudly, great oral skills. Then he climbed on top of me and we kissed and he slid into me. We had sex for a few minutes, maybe 10. He put my legs on top of his shoulders and bent me in half while he rocked into me until he came. He laid on top of me with his face buried in my neck for a long time, maybe half an hour, maybe more. I rubbed his back the whole time, running my fingers and nails gently over his skin.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great right after and when he walked me to the door to kiss me goodnight. I expect more of the same next week and the week after and so on. I love our relationship, it’s simple and satisfying. We get along great and it feels very chill whenever we’re together. I don’t want him as a romantic partner and he doesn’t want me as his so we’re happy with what we have while it lasts.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple friends, they reacted fine. After a year, they are used to it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We have great chemistry and always leaves me satisfied.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to sleep alone after lying in bed for hours with a nice, warm body holding me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He had been with way more people than I had and I had a preconceived idea of what kind of person he would be. I found out quickly that he wasn’t cold or detached just because he’d been with a lot of people. He’s very warm and caring and considerate.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Looking forward to next time!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people overthink sex in general or what it means about a person if they like specific things or how much they like it. I like the mantra of “Good for you, not for me” when it comes to sexuality, kinks, preferences, and life in general.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great job!

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