What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nonprofit
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner is a beautiful dark haired man, he’s 5″7 with bright blue eyes. We were best friends before becoming friends-with-benefits. We went to the same college at the same time (which is how we maintained our friendship) however we met online.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began because we had discussed how we are attracted to each other.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had vaginal and oral sex during our friend-with-benefits experience. I felt like I was connecting with my best friend in a new and exciting way, he was sweet and kind during every experience and he took the time to please me as I did him. We had kept up communication throughout our experience about how we were feeling about each other, the sex itself, and our boundaries.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt safe and secure and felt the same way the next day. I did not have expectations beyond having more sexual experiences and friendship with him. Now we are more connected then ever and are actually in a committed non-monogamous relationship with each ohter.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The connection and intimacy
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Getting past the awkwardness of moving from nonphysical friends to physical friends.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, I have always been (during my adult life) pretty open to the idea of casual sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m so glad it happened
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel like although I haven’t had many casual partners, the ones I have had were mostly positive overall because I learned about myself sexually and morally as well as my partner(s).
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a really neat and interesting project.
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