Friends with Benefits

by Lady s

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Lubbock
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Insurance agent
What’s your current relationship status? Married but looking for more
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Very romantic
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Friends with Benefits

How long ago did this hookup happen? Today

What was your relationship status at the time? Married looking for more

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Very handsome sexy man. We meet on a site that was looking for sex sight our first meeting we had lunch I think we waited awhile before we did anything

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Went to his house to Vist it starting by kissing

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was very hot we kissed for awhile felt around on me I was turned on just by kissing then I went down slowly gave him a blow job he finger me it was so good never had someone finger me like that . He ate me out, and that was so hot and good I got off so many times with him fingering me and eat me out.then he put it in and we went after it for a couple hours he is very good makes me want more

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still talk and go out to eat we still meet up I’m hoping something more will come out of it later but what we have now I’m going to enjoy it

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, We talk about it

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got a great friend and really good sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love it nothing to change

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a turn on

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