Friends with Benefits



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Fernandina Beach
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? RN
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bicurious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Friends with Benefits

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Male 35. We had known each other for about 6 months, strictly a friends with benifits relationship. Although we do both enjoy our friendship apart from the sex. However every chance we get to hangout we have sex. We were friends initially, but didn’t take long to transform into the friends with benifits relationship. We met at work.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was in his bed. I was asleep at his house. He wasn’t supposed to be home that night at all. He got home and woke me up at 12. The lights were off. I hadn’t seen him in a few weeks. He initiated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal penetration, kissing. It was slower more meaningful sex. I enjoyed being woken up to him kissing me and wanting me. It lasted longer than previous hookups with him, but not too long in general. It ended when he came.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cuddled after sex. Talked a little. It was sweet. He kissed my forehead. We fell asleep. I woke up early for work in the morning. My expectations for our relationship were the same coming out of it; strictly friends with benefits. I still feel the same about him now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’ but didn’t give a ‘no’

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our unique relationship with each other. We have intimate sex. But both of us are able to detach from the intimacy when we aren’t having sex. We would never work out as a couple.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? My relationship with him has. In a positive way

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? The only thing that makes me nervous about casual sex is the potential for STDs

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s an awesome concept

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