Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Married and monogamish
Religious affiliation: None.
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Queer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 32
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a queer girl who went to college with a friend of mine from high school. I met her when she visited my friend in our hometown over a break. We had only hung out a couple times, but we jived on so many subjects I immediately developed a crush. She had short, curly hair and a cheshire grin, very curvy and covered in freckles.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started making out at a party at the student housing co-op my friend lived in when me and another friend visited her one year. I had planned on trying to hook up with her if she was into me. There was very dirty dancing to deliciously bad 80’s music and eventually I asked her if she wanted to go somewhere alone. She said she did and led me upstairs to a private study room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We locked the doors behind us and started grinding on each other and making out some more. Hands went into pants and I remember distinctly the rattling of my belt as she finger fucked me with my pants only partway undone. There was lots of rubbing and groping and giggles and moans, I felt deliriously alive and present and switched on. We talked a lot as we went, asking as we went if this felt good or if I could touch here or do that. She was one of the best lovers I’d ever had. We had talked about being into BDSM and she liked to top and I liked to bottom, but being a quickie at a party there was only a little spanking and some biting. We did go down on each other, but it was mostly finger fucking. At some point people realized what we were doing in there (well, we weren’t exactly being quiet about it) and we started hearing clapping and cheering from the hallway outside, yells of encouragement, and we yelled back affirmations and high fived each other. When we had both come, we put our clothes back on and went out to find our friends in the hall and rejoined the party.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both came, myself more than once.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed STIs, and as we had each come up negative on a recent test we went without gloves or dams. We knew there was a risk, but it was low enough to be deemed acceptable. Pregnancy was not a concern.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I liked her and wanted to have sex with her. I enjoy having spontaneous sex in unusual or funny situations, too.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had been drinking, but I knew I wanted to have sex so I didn’t have more than a couple beers.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We maintained casual contact through facebook and letters and hooked up occasionally when one or the other was passing through town. I had hoped for exactly that situation. I remember them fondly and still keep up with them on social media sites.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Well, my closest high school friends knew about it as it happened and they reacted mostly with glee and good-humor. I was known for my sexual antics already at this time so it wasn’t unexpected from me and my friends were supportive but not terribly interested. I didn’t talk about it much with other people because there wasn’t really a reason to unless we were trading funny sex stories. When I did talk about it people liked the story and thought it was entertaining.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not in the slightest.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was basically my ideal sexual encounter. Hot, light-hearted, and satisfying. The worst that could be said was that we were very exhibitionistic and perhaps there were people who were made uncomfortable by our actions and I wasn’t considerate of that issue at the time.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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