What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? PhD candidate
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
He made me cum!
How long ago did this hookup happen? A day ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? 49-year-old Jewish married man whom I met on online. Met him for the second time for sex after almost 2 weeks when we met the first time. After we met the first time, we continued to chat until we decided to meet again at a hotel. We liked each other the first time and as we texted every day, we learned things about each other and flirted.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At a hotel room he booked. We undressed and started to kiss. Since we met earlier, we shared our likes and dislikes through text and that clearly strengthened our sexual intimacy. we kissed for the longest time, him on top, holding my wrists as I felt him grow harder between my legs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He kissed my entire body and even my toes. That felt so good. And when he touched my clit, I could feel myself melt! I was so wet and he kept licking me, playing with my clit, grabbing my ass as he fucked me with his tongue. He then raised my leg, kept fingering me and licking my clit continuously until I felt something wet rushing down my vagina. It was the first time a man had ever made me cum. It was amazing. Then I went down on him, which he loved as I could tell from his moans until he flipped me over and entered me. He was slow and gentle just as I wanted. There were times when penetration hurt andIi told him that and he toned himself accordingly. He asked me to ride him and control the act. It was satisfying for both of us and soon he came.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cuddled, talked for a while sharing personal things about each other. I loved that he held me tight and kissed my forehead multiple times. we both want to continue meeting each other for sex as well as other activities we both like.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No One
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I’m married and wary of the risks involved. I wonder what might happen if it leads to emotional intimacy
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sexual pleasure, A friend.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Risks involved when two married people hook up for sex discreetly. I makes me confused about what I want.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? no
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? its fun. I think i am losing faith in marriage as an insitution
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? very good
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