by The Girl
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Great Falls MT
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? N/A
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Very out there
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
He Wrote A Song About Me
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a really cool dude when I had first met him. He had shaggy hair at the top and short sides, about 5’10, he also had very strong facial features, prominent cheekbones but well rounded and fairly large lips (which I enjoyed). He was super creative but very cooped up and shy. He liked music and wanted to make music as well but he was nervous about it and didn’t really want to show anyone his talent out of fear or judgment. within the first few months I had been slowly but surely breaking him out of this shell and gradually I helped him become more expressive in his everyday life.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Shortly after I had ended a dead-end relationship with someone who had moved away, my friend and I had planned to hook up 3 days later. He had jokingly suggested just hours after I told him of my break up, that he and I should “fuck”. Because I had been in a relationship for the past 6 months with a person who moved away it had been a long time since I had got any “action” I willingly and confidently “jokingly” replied with a simple “when and where?”
His initial reaction was shocked but very quickly turned to flirting and soon enough the 3 days had passed and I ended up in his mom’s apartment with him while she was at work and his friend was out on the couch.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He brought me to his room, the same one I had spent multiple hours with him talking about music and photography, why he had a poster of girls asses on the wall and where I truly got to meet this boy in his purest form. It was funny to me to mentally break it down for myself as the same really good friend I had made over the past few months was sitting there next to me talking dirty into my ear as his hand was reaching towards my tits. He pushed himself into me and I felt a jolt of shock flow through me, I allowed my body to fall back onto his bed. Moments later, he was pulling my pants off and began to perform oral sex on me, a few minutes of that passed and it was very clear to me that he hadn’t done it much before, I thought it was so cute and funny because I know him so well at this point that I thought to myself “of course he doesn’t it’s him.”
Overall the first time with him was enjoyable and strange, to see him in such a different state from his usual one, to see his whole body from head to toe completely naked and to feel my best friend’s dick inside of me.
He became a whole different person when he was thrusting inside of me, his face grew glowy from the sweat and the contour of all his muscles working together. He seemed more like a work of art to me, perfect for my photography.
Quite literally mid-thought, thinking about his body and his face and his animalistic grunts, sharp and harsh exhales, the baseball bat on the wall behind him and his blue walls, he looks straight into my eyes and says “I’m cumming,” pulls out then scoops my head in his sweaty palms and ejaculates all over my face.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? A short bit after we had cleaned up and I had driven back home, I felt odd, I laughed about the whole situation and even texted him a plain, “Well this is awkward.”
He replied seconds later with, “Let’s do that more often.”
And so we did. We continued for months.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient, Needed a rebound
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I admitted to a few friends of mine after they walked in on us at a party, they thought it was hilarious, one even stated that she had a feeling but wasn’t sure.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? The most regret I have about the hook up is the simple fact that if I had decided not to hook up with him, it wouldn’t have brought me to the painful end of a friendship.
I didn’t view him as anything more than a friend, sure the sex was great but that didn’t change the fact that he was still just a friend to me.
After about 5 months of regularly hooking up with me, and several conversations of “if you begin to develop feelings for me you have to tell me because……..” blah blah blah, he told me that he liked me and that he’s been wanting to be with me way before we had even hooked up. I don’t know if I’m literally blind or if he simply just didn’t make it obvious enough but, I told him I don’t want to be with him. A week later he sent me a link to a SoundCloud song, the very first song he’s ever showed the world, and it was about me. How he loves me, wants to die when he’s not around me. Almost obsessive but it didn’t creep me out, in fact, it kinda broke my heart, made me feel like shit. Maybe I didn’t know this boy as well as I thought I had.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Hands down best part about this hookup is that because of me, and because of the heartache I did cause him (though I was completely UNAWARE) he finally began to make music, a lot of it. A lot of cool songs going up for the world to hear, growing an audience and growing for himself.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The anal.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.
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