Hooking Up Around Campus

by Anonymous

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hooking Up Around Campus

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Monogamous friends with benefits relationship.

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him at the beginning of the second semester of my first year of college and we hit it off immediately. He was so tall and broad and had really nice eyes, and we liked a lot of the same music and TV shows. I heard his ex-girlfriend went to our school and they had dated for five years before breaking up a couple months ago. At one party, we talked and smoked all night together and walked back to campus just the two of us, late. He rolled me a cigarette very poorly and was wearing a denim jacket and asked for my number when we parted ways. We got to be friends but were both going through a lot of shit at that time so nothing happened between us until that fall. We went to a concert together and when he dropped me off at my dorm after, I turned to him in the car and asked if he wanted to hook up sometime. He said sure but he had to write a paper that night. A week later we watched X-Files and then fucked for the first time. We saw each other almost every day and it was probably the best sex of my life. He had a big dick and genuinely cared about making me orgasm. One time I asked him if he had any kinks and he said he was really into foreplay.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was two months after we started hooking up and the first time we had ever really gone out together. We got really drunk in someone’s suite and went to another party after that. We didn’t stay very long and began the walk back to my room. On the walk back, I kept ducking into corners trying to make out with him because I knew his ex was out of town and he would be more down than usual. He mostly obliged. They were sloppy drunk kisses, nothing great. I remember saying I had to stop kissing him because every time I closed my eyes I would get dizzy. We wandered over to this house slightly off-campus where a group of girls in my year lived and sat in the golf cart behind it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out with my legs in his lap. After a while I asked him to finger me. At first he was hesitant to do it in a public space, but then he decided it was fine. The angle was weird and his fingers were a little rough but I was drunk so I didn’t care. He couldn’t make me come on his own with his hand so I rubbed my clit until I came. It wasn’t that great of an orgasm. Afterwards, we went back to my room and fucked.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one.

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt kind of weird about it – I had instigated and it wasn’t even that great. We laughed about it in the morning. It was right before winter break and he had implied that he was going to come visit me because our hometowns were a six hour drive apart. I was happy. He didn’t come visit me but we were together for three more months. We split up because he was graduating and getting busy and didn’t really have the time for anything. Now he lives across the country and we don’t really talk anymore, which is a bit sad because we lost our friendship, and when I miss him, it’s not as a friend but as whatever he was when we were hooking up.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, attraction to partner(s), intoxication, to cheer myself up.

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted.

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, marijuana, hashish.

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted.

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, marijuana, hashish.

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent.

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? When I told my friends we hooked up behind that house, they laughed and were kind of impressed. I didn’t really mention it to a lot of people.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? It felt a bit forced – he really liked to talk dirty but didn’t seem to be comfortable dominating me (although was very down to do it when I asked). And it felt fine, nothing special.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We did something we didn’t normally do.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I knew he was only okay with us hooking up publicly on campus because his ex girlfriend was out of town. I don’t think he knew that I knew that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I should start hooking up with people who are equally as kinky as me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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