Hooking Up on The First Date



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Architect
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hooking Up on The First Date

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a tall bearded handsome man. I didn’t know him but we were texting for roughly 2 months before we met in person. I was VERY attracted to him. The night we met we went to the movies and after that, we hung out in his car. We were talking nicely until he kissed me in such a passionate way I lost my breath. He asked me to go somewhere else because he wanted me and has been struggling all night. I wasn’t sure, I wanted him but I had never done anything like that before, not only first-night hookups but sex at all. I was about to lose my virginity to him. I didn’t care that much and told him I was a virgin. He was SHOCKED and asked me if I wanted to because he wouldn’t push me to do it but I said Ok let’s go.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went to a motel. Since it was my first time I didn’t know what to do so we started kissing and rubbing ourselves. I was on top of him rubbing against his hard dick, I swear that was the best feeling ever, it turned me on right away.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took off my clothes and started touching over my panties, then he went ahead and started to rub my clit and to caress all my body, it felt magical. He then masturbated me and took off his pants to see his hardened dick, damn, it was big and hard. I gave him head, he was telling me what to do but I already had an idea of how to give a blowjob. He didn’t give me oral though I wanted him to but I didn’t know how to tell him, I was embarrassed. Then we kept touching each other until I was so wet that I told him I wanted him inside me. It hurt like hell, I actually didn’t feel any pleasure, only a little pain. After a while, he finally came and I was numb, didn’t feel a thing but I didn’t tell him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was IN PAIN. The vulva felt like I had a huge bruise, and my stomach hurt so bad, I had acidity and felt it empty, that lasted 4 days. I didn’t feel very horny about him anymore but I definitely imagined myself having sex again with him, this time hoping to feel good.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I lost my virginity to a new guy, on a first date, in a motel room

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fingering

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The place and the fact that I didn’t feel the penetration

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? You have to protect yourself and be able to tell your partner what you like

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s such a good way to express our stories

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!