What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Wellington
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Hot Hotel Weekend
How long ago did this hookup happen? Less than a Week
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew the guy for about two months, it had been quite a confusing and slightly tumultuous two months, that started when I matched with him on the charming app Tinder and started chatting, I already knew from that point it may not go well as he already didn’t seem to like the fact I had tattoos or would get more and seemed quite interrogating like which for me is normally a turn off but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and meet him, we went on a couple of dates which were nice but very akward as we’re two very different people but despite him not being my type I was quite attracted to him and we had great sexual chemistry which turned into us being a tad confusing friends with benefits, which turned more booty call like as we would text and just want really good, fun sex as we both knew neither of us wanted more with the other and definitely wouldn’t get feelings.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had had really great sex and once in a nice hotel but with things being a little confusing and me indecisive, and his walls abit thin at his place I decided to suggest a fun, crazy hotel night at a really nice hotel close by that a spa bath amongst other awesome things which I thought would be fun especially as he’d always been really attentive to my body and pleasing me, and hadn’t tried some stuff which I thought would be best at the hotel room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There were many great sexual things that weekend in the hotel, that writing about it I can’t do justice or remember everything as it all blurred into a great hotel weekend with the spa bath, ordering pizza and having cidar in the evening which were the total highlights.
From the moment he arrived into the room there was alot of making out, neck kissing, fingering and testing the absolute comfiness of the amazing bed that even I didn’t want to leave the next day. The evening kind of blurred between having heavy grinding makeout sessions in the bubble spa bath and intimate moments of having cidar and making out to me needing to rest from also getting a migraine, which did alter the weekend slightly from what we had planned of the toys and stuff I had brought but was still a great evening with the pizza and slight sex in the amazing bed that evening, with alot of body shaking orgasms which resulted in me accidentally scratching his back and digging my nails into his hand to try not to scream so much but that happened anyway with alot of moaning.
We tried out the amazing shower a few times and had makeout sessions in there, with some great oral moments (from his part) and even some great fingering moments of him sitting down in the shower fingering me, with my back to him and pulling my hair right back which was amazing and caused a few major orgasms and screams.
The next morning there was alot more great sex, despite being in slight pain from a luckily not so heavy period which is made it better to try new positions with him like my legs by my head and wheelbarrow on the side of the bed which felt amazing having him so deep. We then showered, and there was alot of cuddling and briefly using the pool and spa in the hotel before checking out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a little awkward as it had been a great weekend and alot of fun and awesome sex but did end a little badly as I got a little grumpy with some things and a little emotional as I was pretty sure we wouldn’t see each other again even though we had both said it wasn’t going to be our last time having sex, I was pretty sure I didn’t want to continue things as it had got really intimate and was starting to get a little complicated, knowing really personal stuff about each other and feeling like we were friends so I thought it was best a couple of days later to end things, not the best in my novel style texts but for the best despite the great sexual chemistry and sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a couple of friends
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Alot of it was really good especially being in a really fancy room in a really nice hotel.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Bad timing of having my period, which did make some things a little awkward and more painful to do, despite some things feeling really good was not fun or the best timing in an awesome hotel and room to be so tired and grumpy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, i’m still pretty open to casual sex and hookups. Friends with Benefits not so much, as it can messy, not because you may expect it too turn into more as I seem to choose people on some kind of purpose that I know I wouldn’t mesh with seriously or get feelings for, but it can still get complicated when your seeing the same person quite alot and could possibly start to rely on the company and intimate things like cuddling amidst great sex, these can easily get confused but generally gets complicated.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am still quite cautious towards casual sex and getting attached, but am open to it as it is a alot of fun having that sexual freedom to experiment and have fun without it being too awkward.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great.
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