It Took a While

by Tammy

Age: 18
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: New Zealand
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

It Took a While

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew him for a few years. We met at school, and he suddenly had a growth spurt, so he was in that classic gangling teenage boy phase, but a nice face with good cheekbones.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I made a joke about friends with benefits, and the more we talked about it, the better it sounded. I had only ever kissed boys, and he had hardly kissed girls.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was always curious, always asking if I was okay with what we were doing, respecting my decisions, and trying to make me feel good. Once he had made me mad, and after I forgave him, he fingered me for the first time. I helped him, and it took about half an hour between us, but eventually we got there, and I came. I was on three orgasms before we got to him. He was never shy, which helped, and was more than happy to show me what he liked.

I had to break it off with him when a boy asked me out. He and I dated for two months. After dating for two months, we broke up, and I went back to my friend. We’ve now been dating for two months.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We had never been intimate with other people, and we didn’t have sex, so we didn’t need protection.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We were horny, curios teenagers who were positive about sex, and trusted each other.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We started as friends, and ended as friends. It took a while for us to start having feelings for each other after my breakup, but now we’re very happy as a couple.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend was very good – a little bit jealous, even.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, definitely.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I learned a lot, and so did he.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The orgasms, the sated curiosity, and the secrecy.

The worst part was the beginning, when he thought that fingering was just jabbing your fingers in and out. I put an end to that pretty quickly.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Even if we hadn’t ended up together, I still wouldn’t have regretted it.

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