What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Greece
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Just Some Romance from a Down-to-Earth Person
How long ago did this hookup happen? A year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We’ve known each other for years but we hadn’t really talked until one summer we spent all night at the beach. He was in a 4-year relationship then and I wasn’t sexually intrested in him but we had a very honest conversation. At one point, I noticed that although we’d been talking for two hours he wouldn’t look me in the eyes, I told him that I noticed and I thought it was cute that he was so shy. We left the beach at 6 am and didn’t communicate for two years.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Two years after that, at the same beach, Isaw him playing a drinking game. At one point, everyone who was single had to drink and he was drinking so I felt bad that he had broken up with his girlfriend. As the night went by, we started talking and laughing and this time we were really flirting which I wasn’t expecting to do. We watched the sunrise and still, nothing happened except that i was sitting on his lap. Then, his hand started to move on my belly touching my navel piercing with a sensual touch. He moved upwards to touch my breast and at that point, we started kissing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was very strange, I would’ve never expected such a calm guy to make out like that. He was dominant in a very sexy way, he would whisper in your ear if he liked what you were doing to him. He was expressive and kissed passionately. We didn’t do much, just some kissing and touching because there were other people around. We did end up doing more about a week later. This guy was fire in bed and we still see each other often. Every time we do it he wants to lick every inch of my body and it’s so sexy. I consider him a good lover and a very nice person. I don’t know how this will end but, if I had to guess, I would probably say that because we live in different cities we will eventually stop seeing each other when he leaves again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up we just went to sleep seperately because each of us had our friend in our tents and he gave me his number to call him when I went back to the city. When I woke up the next morning, I almost couldnt believe it had happened but I was sure that I wanted to the rest of the experience. Now I’m glad that I called him when I returned to the city. We have been seeing each other for almost a year now. I’m not saying everything is perfect, both of us have some issues with the fact that we see other people, but one hook up can lead to two people really enjoy spending time together with honesty and respect
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Almost anyone i consider my close friend knows about him but sometimes they dont know the whole story with details about our past
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His voice in my ear and his hands on my belly, back, and breasts.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The feeling that there where other people that we knew close by
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, i think if both people want to do it then there is no reason not to. It might lead to something beautiful but if it doesn’t if it was consensual there is no need to feel sorry.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Almost every one of my close friends think that by having casual sex you make the other person think that you can’t be in a serious relationship or that you do that really often. I believe that you can have an amazing night by having sex with someone your not in a relationship with and that it is a way of getting to know them and if you like them.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really like it. I usually feel like an alien defending casual sex so it’s nice to see that so many people have done it and you can read their stories and relate.
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