by Jean Katcher
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Scottsdale
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Copywriter
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Lyft Love Affair
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A little over 6 months ago I took a pooled Lyft to the SFO airport. The car ride was lengthy due to traffic and how far away the airport was so I just got to chatting with the other person in the back seat. It was a bit awkward at first but then we both hit it off and couldn’t stop engaging with one another. I had a boyfriend at the time and wasn’t interested in a hookup but I definitely felt chemistry between us. We didn’t exchange phone numbers but added each other on social media and went our separate ways. Honestly I didn’t think much of it because we lived in two different states and I thought I’d never hear from him again.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Fast forward about three months after we met, I broke up with my boyfriend and we finally exchanged numbers. We both had a lot in common and just enjoyed occasionally talking with one another. He definitely initiated things and was always extremely flirtatious with me over text. Then he mentioned he was visiting the city I lived in and that’s when I became open to the idea of a hookup. I was actually looking forward to seeing him after what felt like forever.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came down to visit the city I lived in for a friends wedding and that’s when we hooked up. Before the reception we went shopping, had dinner and then hung out at the hotel. I really liked spending time with him and was actually getting a little nervous about the whole situation. I ended up leaving for a concert and then received a flirty text from him to come back to the hotel. I was hesitant to join him because I totally knew I’d end up sleeping with him. Well I went back, we hooked up and it was great. He was amazing in bed, it was so much fun and it felt great to have casual sex with someone without any commitment.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup we talked about life, laughed and just enjoyed each others company. I hung out with him for a bit in the morning at the hotel, had sex again and then left in the early afternoon. There was no expectations or hopes for a relationship with him it was just a fling and we both knew that. He went back to the city he lived in the next day and to be honest I was a bit sad. I didn’t reach out to him because I didn’t want to get attached or overthink the whole situation. But to my surprise he started contacting me and texting me more than before after the hookup. He’s a chill guy and I want to stay in touch with him even if it’s just as friends.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Two girlfriends, they both didn’t seem to care about the situation. I mean we’re all adults here.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to know more about the guy on a personal level and getting to know about myself more on a sexual level.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He doesn’t live in the same city as me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This experience just made me more open to casual sex and realize it’s not that big of a deal.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think there’s a stigma on casual sex that it’s for promiscuous people. Hookups are normal and there’s nothing wrong with them if you’re okay with it and you’re not hurting someone else, like cheating or lying to a partner.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting.
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