My Amazing Lover



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Librarian
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Amazing Lover

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My friend is well built with sexy strong legs, dark hair, lovely smile. We met this summer and started hooking up immediately, and have been meeting every week since then

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We messaged during the day at work and arranged to meet that evening for a few drinks and dinner. We generally take turns to instigate and I did this time as I really wanted to see him again

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We booked a hotel room and he invited me into the shower where I went down on him. Then he fucked me from behind in front of the mirror, then him standing and me lying on the edge of the bed. Then I went on top. I love having sex with him and felt amazing. He is an amazing and attentive lover. We went to sleep and in the morning I knelt over him while he went down on me. Then I rode him again and came. I had to leave early in the morning and left him in bed.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought about constantly afterward. It makes me smile and feel happy and fulfilled. I hope to keep seeing him regularly for sex. I am in love with him and would like a relationship with him but am content to see him casually as that is all he feels able to do.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told my friends, who are enthusiastic about it

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Amazing sex and spent the night sleeping in each other’s arms. He is my favorite person to hang out with.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I only see him once a week

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I had not considered this before I met him and was relatively uninterested in sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have not had casual sex before but find it a positive experience. I feel so alive

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