by Chubby in NYC
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Media
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Craigslist FWB
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One time turned FWB
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The guy I hooked up with was chubby, like myself. Had some scruff, brown eyes and black hair, and was relatively hairy.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met on Craigslist. We spoke for an hour or so, disclosing likes/dislikes and things like that. I went to his apartment. It was a 5th floor walk-up. He opened the door, we sat on the couch, and he kissed me. Didn’t waste any time. (I was nervous so I kind of liked that.)
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out, touched each other for a while…just kind of feeling each other out. Then clothes came off and I went down on him. I gave him head for a while, probably 6-7 minutes, and then he came. He returned the favor, and I went down on him once more before I left. After he finished for the second time, we kind of just put our clothes on and I left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great about this hookup. There are obvious horror stories from things like Craigslist, but this wasn’t one of them. I had no expectations, thought it was a one-time deal, but we wound up seeing each other a few more times. I wish we stayed in touch a bit longer.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel more confident, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The only person I told was a future (female) FWB. She was kind of shocked, but didn’t react poorly. She asked a lot of questions.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being able to get off without any kind of attachment with someone who held the same thought.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not staying in touch longer with him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? One of the best encounters I’ve ever had.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t have an issue with casual sex, as long as both parties know it’s strictly casual.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great forum for people to open up.
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!