My Favorite Lover

by Eric

Gender: Male
Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Brooklyn
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Photographer
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Changes with my mood
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Favorite Lover

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a petite little smiling brunette with big green eyes who giggled a lot, had a dynamite body and an ass that I will NEVER get out of my head. We had worked together in the same place. There always seemed to be some sexual tension between us but things were always cool. Loved partying with her and watching her act like a nut which she usually did but despite being friends, nothing ever happened. Oh, I sniffed her ear like I was a dog at work once which I later found out set me up for the event I’m about to detail.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Now that I look back, I think it was planned I mean, I always thought that if I ever found myself single, and she was as well, she would be the first one I’d try to make a FWB situation with. I suggested we meet up in Prospect Park, the day was nice and we just wandered around, through the woods, laughing and being silly. At one point we went back to my neighborhood for some food and to watch Pee-Wee’s Big Adventure (what can I say, I’m a romantic). Anyway, we started doing the back-rub thing like 10 minutes into the movie and then BAM!!! we exploded into the kind of furious kissing where you bang teeth and just don’t give a fuck. I don’t even remember heading into my bedroom but I think I vaporized her shirt with my stare because it seems like it disappeared.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was one of those hookups where specifics were fuzzy but the emotion and physical feelings are crystal clear. I remember straddling her, she had a pair of tight jeans on and her shirt was off giving me a view of her perfect little perky breasts I’d been curious about for so long now. She was so overwhelmingly stunning, and was the first girl I had been with since a previous bad relationship that I freaked out a bit and lost my hard on like RIGHT in the heat of passion, gone, finished. Nervous and ashamed I apologized and she looked at me not like a lover but like the friends that we were, put her hand on my chest, smiled and said “really, it is ok” about as sincere as those words have ever been said. Like some kind of fucking magic spell, my cock sprang back up to attention without a single hiccup, to this day it still is the weirdest example of the penis/brain connection I have ever seen. My previous girlfriend was not very energetic in bed and much taller and bigger than I was and not to be cliche with a baseball metaphor but I felt like I had been swinging weighted practice bats for 2 years and this tiny goddess underneath me was the performance bat (or whatever they call it). I tore into her with such animalistic abandon that I scared myself even, and she encouraged it every step of the way. There was literally nothing I could do that was too firm or physical for her, hair pulling, ass slapping, it was the kind of athletic fucking that your whole block can hear if the windows are open. She was the best lover I have ever had and I have had some remarkable lovers. That hookup ended 3 days later when she finally left my apartment.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, we both did, multiple times to the point of exhaustion.
She was the first woman I had been with who could easily orgasm from vaginal intercourse.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used Condoms but we never discussed our STI history.
Like I said, we had known each other for years and had both been in long term relationships previously.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She was/is, a gorgeous woman inside and out.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We probably smoked a bit of pot and had a drink or two but neither were even remote factors.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She left my house 3 days later and I was floating on cloud 9. I went to her place a few days later and stayed like a week. Both of us wanted so bad to be single so we dated others but always seemed to end up in each others beds at the end of most nights. Eventually we were single in name only.
How do I feel about her now? She is the best wife I could ever have, the best mother I could hope for for my child, and she still has that sweet, silly, slightly devious sparkle in her beautiful eyes. Oh, and I’ll be damned, she’s STILL the best damn lay of my life.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate knew because we woke him up then he felt a little awkward because they used to hook up a little but the interesting thing is, I had zero jealousy over that and to this day, jealousy has never been a factor in our relationship.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I would say it was about as consensual and mutually wanted as hook-ups get.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Only that I didn’t get to that perfect bouncy little ass sooner :))

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I found the love of my life, my happily ever after, mother of my child, and business partner, from this casual, no strings attached, night of intensely hot sex, you don’t see that as the plot of many love stories which is a shame because, it seems to happen a lot.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I feel bad because I wanted to write about one of the dramatically dirty sexual experiences I have had but when I was thinking about what experience I was going to write about I began applying “the best” as a criteria and my wife was who came to the front of that search. Sorry if I got a bit sappy but this project seems to be about honesty and honestly, she was/is the sexiest, best, most satisfying lover I will ever have.

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