What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Full-time nanny
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? A few hours ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a white male, 26 years old, with short brown hair, a long face and 5 o’clock shadow. We matched on Tinder the day before and had been texting constantly since then. I told him that I had the house to myself and didn’t want to spend the weekend alone. He got the hint. At first, I was nervous about meeting up, but we have A LOT of the same interests and I liked the way he texted. He seemed really engaged, with lots of flirting, talking and no boring “hey wyd” texts.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began at his apartment. After he asked for my number, he texted me the address to his apartment and we decided to meet up the next day. I told him I’d come over during the evening around 6 or 7 o’clock.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we met, he let me into his apartment and headed straight for the bedroom. There, he let me get comfortable on his bed. He’s a pretty hardcore gamer, so he was watching some livestreams on his desktop before I arrived. He chatted casually and he showed me some funny videos, then we tried to find something to watch together on Netflix. A few minutes later, we settled on some funny anime that he really liked. We laughed together and I could tell that he was being very respectful of my body, not touching me without me motioning that it was alright (lying on my side so we could spoon or placing his hand on my thigh and letting him rub me).
After a few episodes of the anime and spooning, I could feel him starting to get an erection. He kept his hips away from me, I’m guessing to not offend me or make me feel uncomfortable, but I gently pushed my butt back onto him to let him know that I felt comfortable with him. He asked me if I wanted a massage while we continued watching the anime and I said yes. He took off my shirt and unhooked my bra before asking me to lay on my stomach. He sat on my butt/upper thighs and proceeded to rub my back and shoulders. I told him that I hold all of my stress in my shoulders and he began carefully kneeding them. I moaned in relief and pleasure. I could feel his erection getting harder and harder.
His breaths began to get deeper and deeper and I closed my eyes and let him continue massaging my tense shoulders. Then he asked me if I wanted him to go lower and I giggled and said yes. He moved down further on my thighs and began massaging my ass and complimented my figure. He was definitely at like, 80% hard right then. He moaned and whispered “Fuck, mmmm” while he groped my ass. Finally he told me to take off my pants and he undressed himself while I took off the rest of my clothes. Then he told me to lay back down on my stomach and he moved down on the bed until his head was between my legs.
After groping my ass and admiring it for a few more moments, he spread my cheeks apart and began kissing and licking them, then he stuck his face between them and starting sticking his tongue inside of me. I gasped and moaned in pleasure… It had been two months since my last time having sex and I forgotten how much I loved good head.
He then asked me if I wanted to 69 with him and I said yes. He pulled off his briefs and I saw his long thick member. He was a lot bigger than my ex and I was excited to try out a member his size for the first time. We 69’d for a while until I could taste his precum and he started to reach for the condom drawer.
We started with missionary, then he took me on my stomach, then he asked me to do doggy style. After that we took a break to cuddle and chat while he got his erection back. I rode him until my legs gave out and then he rolled me on my stomach again and didn’t stop until he came.
Overall, I came twice. I would have liked for him to give me a lot more head as I’m used to being gone down for 10-20 minutes at a time, but other than that, there were multiple times during this encounter that I felt like I was going to pass out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After, I felt like I was on a sex-high. I could barely drive home straight, and had the need to get good food and go to sleep. Honestly, in the future, I think I would like to remain fuck buddies. He is a very nice guy and we love to laugh together, but I don’t think that we could be anything serious because he’s so caught up in his gaming, it’s hard to get his attention.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He is reeaaaally experienced, so he hit all the right spots at the right time. Plus, he has lots of toys to play with. I can’t wait to experiment some more with him.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Since I’m sure that he’s addicted to gaming, he basically hopped on his computer right after we had sex and proceeded to internet surf while I was still naked in his bed. That made me feel a little ignored but I’m sure it’s more because of him rather than me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Honestly, before my boyfriend (and even during) I had always been interested in casual sex, but I was afraid of feeling like a whore afterward. Now, I feel very liberated.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think that it’s really cool. I think it allows people with little to no sexual experience to be more sex-positive and not be afraid to take the leap into casual sex and dating.
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