What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Nerdy Girl Who Was Curious
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was about 5’10. He wouldn’t usually be my type as he was extremely cocky and sure of himself. He had brown hair and a well-groomed beard with a strong northern Irish accent. I’d met him a few times amongst mutual friends. I found him intriguing and sensed a kind of sexy vibe. We got on well and would chat and banter. Out of our group, I was the only other who would occasionally smoke weed, so he would kindly share his with me. I always found him (and still do) a dead-on decent mate with his heart in the right place. However, I had heard he was quite open about his sex life, and one mutual friend seemed a little flummoxed that he’d slept with such stunning women. I’m pretty open myself, so I got a kick from wondering if he’d sleep with me or if I’d initiate anything at a later stage. I was not actively seeking his affection and was very happy just hanging out and being mates.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had arranged a group holiday together; he asked for suggestions of badges/items to make for us with his 3D printer. I was perhaps feeling a little daring and sent him a message suggesting Chasity Belts, to which he followed up with ‘butt plugs it is then!’ It didn’t take long for the conversation to turn to sex, he sent me several videos and pictures which turned me on and we talked about things we liked doing. Pictures of his stunning exes made me a bit self conscious but I knew we were friends and curious and it wasn’t like it mattered what he thought of my body, so long as he was respectful and interested in playing together.
I instigated an excuse to come to his house but left it open, wasn’t sure what I wanted exactly – I figured no pressure. We could always hang out. I’d teased about my husband pimping me out for weed but he was happy to give me some regardless.
I arrived and asked to smoke after we’d sat for a bit. I still wasn’t sure which way this was going. After I started to smoke, things became even more unclear as we talked and rambled about all sorts of stuff. A lot of the time we seemed to misunderstand each other, perhaps from having different regional accents, or maybe that was just me struggling. I was so nervous and smoked way too quickly through my weed. I flicked ash into the carpet a couple of times before I realised I was doing it, and I was mortified. Still, Sean was polite as always and didn’t pressure or suggest anything to me. We were sat on different chairs, which I found both frustrating but also a relief. I looked at my friends face in a different way; I had never really noticed how attractive he actually was until I was possibly going to have sex with him! I decided I didn’t care how this was happening or why, I wasn’t going to overthink. I was just going to be as myself as I could be, stay in the moment, and try to enjoy myself.
I was getting so high that I couldn’t speak for a while. But again, he was so good not to get pissed off with me. He was a true gent. But I felt very comfortable and very horny. Sean then showed me some photos and videos on his phone of sex he’d had. It was interesting and sexy and not something I’ve ever done with anyone before. I told myself, “Stevie, he’s definitely up for this,” but I still wasn’t completely sure until he suggested he take a shower. He then showed me his very nice bathroom and was soon smoking a cigarette and I watched, transfixed, as he started to strip off in front of me. I’ve never ever slept with someone confident enough to undress entirely in front of me. He unveiled his body and only then did it occur to me how splendidly fit he was. He said he didn’t give a fuck who saw him naked or when.
I watched him wash himself shamelessly, and it was wonderful. He washed his hair, face body and spent extra time on his cock, balls, and ass. It was like a show. I’ve never been remotely voyeurist, but I found a strange new pleasure in watching him whilst he knew I was watching him. I just wanted to stare at his big swinging cock, but it felt so naughty to do so! I couldn’t believe it, but I loved his cockiness. It was utterly different to anyone I’d ever slept with before.
I can’t remember exactly what happened after his shower, but he said something about seeing his dick. I was sitting on the sofa, and he walked towards me, pulled his trunk-like penis out over his jeans, and consensually put it into my mouth.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral sex happened first; I had never been so delighted to taste a cock. The head had a beautiful texture and seemed to fill the palette of my mouth. I felt so aroused by his size, and I knew I was wet already.He turned me around over the arm of the sofa and pulled my leggings and pants down. I suddenly felt the slight pressure of the big, beautiful head of his cock slide into my wet pussy. I was gasping and moaning immediately as he started to fuck me. I took off my top and bra, and I think at this point we switched back to oral. I then started licking and sucking his balls while I ran my finger up and down his clean crack. He wanked himself as I did this and could see it was working well. Then, I let my mind wander. He tried to fuck me missionary, but by then, we both had lost interest. He hadn’t eaten that day, so we took a break and went to get a Subway.
After the Subway, I showered. The drugs were wearing off a bit, and my confidence/not caring came back. He’d technically fucked me, so I no longer cared what he thought of my body. He came in to help me put the shower on and to get me a towel while I stood in full view. I wanted to high five myself for being an adult who was happy in her own skin. He then hadn’t initiated anything, and I indicated that he had promised me an orgasm and hadn’t delivered. He shrugged it off. We talked, and I stayed naked in a bathrobe but wasn’t too interested in staying covered. I started to get frustrated and said I had to go soon. I asked him what being a gentleman meant to him. Sean said it meant not being rude unless you meant to be. I said, surely he meant to be rude then if he wouldn’t make me come. I wasn’t sure where this was going, but I was sexually frustrated and aching for an orgasm from him.
Unexpectedly, he came over to me, being called rude seemed to have riled him, and he cheekily started to kiss me. Oh, it was a hot kiss, and I was instantly aroused. He started to feel my breasts as he kissed me, I was in raptures of pleasure as I hadn’t expected him kissing me would turn me on so much. He began to stop, and I looked at his brown eyes and realized I’d gotten lost in the moment. His big dick was in his jeans in front of me, and I got my hands in to find it. He touched my clit and got me very heated. We then transitioned to him sitting and me giving him a tit fuck. That was a lot of fun, and we both seemed to enjoy it. I can’t quite remember the order of things, but eventually, he brought me to the edge of the sofa and started fucking me hard. I started to feel myself lose it, and it felt amazing. I longed for him to stroke my clit too, but he didn’t and I decided I was gonna start to get myself off whilst he fucked me. Suddenly, a sensation built up inside me. I stopped touching myself and felt his cock take over inside me. He thrust me into an orgasm and just before, I involuntarily squirted and felt how wet and silky the fuck was. It was an amazing feeling, and I couldn’t help but react and make noise to the thrusting. I heard myself getting louder and louder until my shouting orgasm. It was probably one of the loudest I’ve had, and it was amazing.
We chatted and got dressed, I had to go. He politely walked me to my car and gave me some weed. I felt really good after such a good orgasm, and we wished each other well as I drove away.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt happy it happened and glad it was something I got to try. But there was an emotional fallout. It shouldn’t have happened on a day I should have spent with my husband and family. I hope we can continue being friends; I’d be open to hooking up again but just not in the near future. I still feel the same way about Sean. He’s a good lad and despite the fact I got ash and food on his clean carpet, he said nothing. I hope he finds a loving partner for some romance. I will hopefully be in his life as his friend for a long time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple of friends, and they had no strong reactions either way. But, they were happy I enjoyed myself.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His big dick and feeling comfortable and respected as a friend throughout.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The sudden thought that I was fulfilling a teabagging fantasy and no oral sex for me. Also, the moment I realized we were just doing it bareback, and I hadn’t suggested condoms. I do find bareback sex much hotter though.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s made me more confident to have sex with my friends. We are just humans, and it’s another way to show your appreciation of a person. It’s fun, and I enjoy sharing energy with people that way and finding a temporary space for both people to be in.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think people should shut down non-monogamy, but it’s all about what works for you and your primary partner, if you have one.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fantastic. We need to talk more about sex and learn more about casual sex. We are all interested, haha.
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!