New Friend and New Lover



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States, Fort Worth, TX
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Machine Operator
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

New Friend and New Lover

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was 10 years younger but of similar intelligence. We met for lunch from talking through Tinder at first. After our first meeting and a goodbye kiss from me, our second meeting was going to be sexually oriented. Before we hooked up I felt very comfortable with her, as we had shared many similar things about our personal life and previous relationships.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It happened in my apartment bedroom. There was sexual chemistry from the start of our second meeting. We planned on “hanging out/Netflix and chill” for a couple hours before I had to leave for work. Mutual desire was obvious to me. I instigated the hookup.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As she sat on my bed after a particularly passionate conversation between us, I laid down beside her casually. I invited her to cozy up and she did happily. I wrapped my arm around her so she could lay on my chest. I made a move to kiss her and we made out passionately. She was very ‘touchy-feely’ and had obviously been looking forward to my advance. She did not want to engage in actual sex, as it was our second meeting, but after intense making out and dry humping, she eventually felt my erection and became highly aroused. She wanted to see my penis and after touching and playing she engaged in oral sex. The blowjob was amazing and I came on her breasts after 15 minutes or so. We cleaned up and she gave me a ride to work.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The experience was mutually great. The sexual attraction and natural chemistry between us was solidified. Our next encounter would obviously involve passionate sex. I hoped to explore our sexuality together more, as she was the most exciting girl I had ever been with as well as my first lay in over 6 months. We are currently great friends and still very sexually active with one another. There is a possibility for a long-term relationship in the future, but for now we are amazing fuck-buddies and friends.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, It was easy/convenient.

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few co-workers who gave enthusiastic ‘guy’ praise.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We both vibed incredibly and the sexual act was highly passionate.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Lack of time.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I have more confidence to experiment sexually in a casual sense overall now.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have progressed to sex several times a week and the orgasms for her are amazing. She has introduced me to rough sex techniques and we’ve found a happy equilibrium to sexual gratification as well as an intimate friendship. Not sure where this is going but I’m down for the ride.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it can be enriching personally in a limited capacity but is too easy to abuse. When both parties are fully engaged and having true fun, it can be very worthwhile. I have not had any negative casual sex experiences yet in my life, but I do notice how others I know get hurt emotionally quite often through carelessness.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is an important social study of our time.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!