Obsessed For a Long Time But Not Anymore

by Shady

Gender: Female
Age: 28
Race/ethnicity: Hispanic/ Latino
Location: Lima, Peru
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Occupation: Commercial Executive
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
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Obsessed For a Long Time But Not Anymore

How long ago did this hookup happen? Almost a month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Actually, I don’t quite remember how I met him, I do remember we had a friend in common on FB, so I suppose he added me, that happened 5 years ago. After a while of being talking, chatting… we finally met in person, he immediately flirted with me and tried to kiss me. I didn’t feel that attracted at first, but when he invited me to his place the 2nd time… the madness started.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I started to go to his place. Most of our encounters were there as it was easier for me to go and sleep over. We hardly ever planned it… I texted or called him or viceversa whenever we wanted. If neither of us could make it that day, we never complained or argued about it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was crazy, we did it not only at his place, but also in parks, taxis, parking lots, the street, so unexpected, never planned, I guess those things make it more exciting. We get used to have hard sex, our sessions lasted a lot, we enjoyed recording each other, taking pictures, he loved blow jobs and of course I loved the way he f*** , but most of all, the size of d!ck, it was amazing.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He used condoms at first, but as time went along, we stopped using it. We felt more comfortable without it and he just came outside. Didn’t have problems till the last time we had sex.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? To be honest, I feel that it just happened, by the time, I was so deep down and upset because I broke up with my last bf months ago, however, I wasn’t looking for anything serious.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not at all. He doesn’t drink alcohol or smoke, I do…  but I was ok with that.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I spent almost 5 years of my life on and off hooking up with this guy….so over time we started to get to know each other, hang out… and so on, but at the end of the day, we ended up at his place having wild and amazing sex. Actually and now that I remember, he told once to give it a try, but it lasted a week, “make a scene” situations and stuff like that weren’t for us lol, so since that very moment, we decided to leave things as they used to be. Eventually, we tried to date someone else and we did, but couldn’t stop to see each other. Now it was different: comparing our couples, I think that was a mistake… we started to argue…. reproaches… it turned into something…. sick.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To a couple of friends, closed friends of course. They always told me to stop it, but never critized me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Totally consensual for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? NOT AT ALL, but I knew it wouldn’t last forever. My friends say I’m better off without him and I know  it’s true, but there are moments when I do remember all the things we’ve lived and experienced just the 2 of us and then… I got a little bit gloomy, damn lol.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was that I had a wild, crazy and passionate sex life with a guy who I was really comfortable with and always had a good time with. We noticed that we were made for each other… in bed, we knew what we liked and we needn’t to ask for it.  The worst  thing: I let myself get caught up in it and had feelings for someone who just wasn’t honest to me. He lied to me most of the time, maybe he didn’t want to disappoint me, but afterwards, he did. I found out so many things about him that I didn’t like at all. After him, I realized casual sex doesn’t work for me. I’m currently dating someone and I’m trying hard to make things work for good.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I have to admit it: it was the best sex I’ve had in my entire life!!! We were very compatible in bed. I still don’t know if I will find someone like him lol, but all in all, it was a great experience, it also helped me to know what I want in sexual matters.

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