Old Friend



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Graphic Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Old friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s someone I’ve known since high school. I always had feelings for him but never acted on them. He was a great friend to hang out with, go out with, and was always in contact with me over the years. I’ve always liked him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I hadn’t seen him in over eight years and when I recently left my ex, he insisted that we meet up for drinks. We met up, went bar hopping, and I was feeling brave enough to tell him of the crush I’ve always had for him. He confessed to always liking me as well. Anyway, we ended up in the back seat of his car.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I don’t care for oral because it’s never was good for me, but he insisted and it was the best I’ve ever had. He discovered my nipple piercings and that drove him wild. The sex was amazing, wild and hot. He’s a great lover. We talked about the past, and set up to see each other again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up bruised everywhere and wondering why my knees hurt so much. It felt good to finally tell him how I felt but always to have such a wild hook up. I get excited when he calls or text, we’ve kept this casual for now. I’m not sure if I’m ready for something serious so soon.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My cousins. They were excited about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? To get to know him more and to have my fantasies of him validated.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I may have fallen asleep at the end and snored. He woke me up and told me so, but we did see each other three more times after that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This encounter gave me more confidence in my sexuality and to be more daring. I’ve always though casual sex was important for some people.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Best sex I had in nine years.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t think casual sex is for everyone, some can’t separate sex and feelings. Casual sex has helped me with my needs, wants, and I’ve been able to get back to life and all that I have going on. I think casual sex shouldn’t be seen as something negative, but there should be more resources and awareness on safe sex practices. Maybe bars should give out condoms to the ones that ask for them.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting

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