Ongoing FWB



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50’s
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, Ph.D., JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+

Ongoing FWB

How long ago did this hookup happen? Ongoing

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on social media and dated a few times. I wasn’t sure if she wanted a relationship at the time, but we seemed to click. There was never anything sexual about our dates, and we just went our separate ways.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She contacted me on social media and knew I was in a relationship, but it was open. She asked me if I’d like to meet for a drink to catch up one afternoon, so I agreed. I had no expectations other than catching up with a friend.

When I arrived at the restaurant, it was happy hour, and there were lots of people there. Fortunately, none that I knew. She was at the bar, and I have to say she looked great. She’s about 5’1” and very petite. She has enhanced C cups, and her skirt showed off her legs.

We chatted and caught up for about an hour when she asked me why I never tried anything sexual with her to which I replied that I wasn’t sure that was what she was looking for. She assured me that she was waiting for me to make a move, but today she just said let’s go back to her place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to her place, and she suggested I sit on the couch so she could freshen up and to make myself a drink. She came out of the bedroom in a pair of thigh highs and heels with nothing else on. I also noticed she put a leather slave collar on. I have to admit this brought me to attention pretty quickly.

She walked over to me and did a little twirl asking me if I liked what I saw to which I said of course. At that point, she knelt and undid my belt. She proceeded to give me the sluttiest gagging pornstar blowjob I ever had. I tried to reciprocate, but she said that today was for me and she hoped next time would be even more.

As I felt myself getting close, I asked her where I should cum to which she replied, “On my pussy.” With that, she straddled me, and I unloaded right on her pussy lips.

After I recovered, I asked her why she did that to which she replied, “Because I wanted to.”

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We agreed that we would see each other for an FWB relationship and nothing more. We also agreed to keep in touch and have seen each other since.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The amazing oral and the fact she wanted to do it

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s great with consenting partners

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome site

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